It’s not easy to be a great mom. Some of us didn’t have the best examples to follow growing up. And it’s not a skill taught in school.
You either have to educate yourself or learn on the job.
Even though there are many parenting styles, successful moms share many of the same attributes that give their kids the best chance for success and happiness.
Most moms naturally have a few of these attributes but must develop some of the others.
I have spent some time studying other great moms and I have found these 11 traits in common with many moms.
Now, You know this would be at the top of the list! Children are messy, noisy, don’t listen well, and exasperating.
They can also be pretty funny, kind and loving, too. But patience is essential.
Being able to endure the tantrums, terrible twos and power struggles takes a good helping of patience.
Learning to take a deep breath and relax can help more than just your parenting skills.
Juggling the house, work, and kids require a great ability to multitask.
If you pay attention, your kids are constantly pulling your attention away from whatever you’re doing. Many times it’s not easy to regain your focus.
The ability to multi-task comes in handy.
Children quickly learn to doubt themselves. Soon after, they begin to worry about the opinions of others.
One of the best ways to combat this is to encourage your kids. With enough encouragement, a child can become their best self.
The easiest way to do this is using positive reinforcement when they doing something well or when they do something without you asking.
Encouragement and support go hand-in-hand.
Children with support grow up to be relaxed and comfortable. Without support, the world can be a scary place.
Teach your child there’s little to fear.
One of the characteristics of intelligence is problem-solving.
Kids tend to find unique sets of challenges that have to be solved. Often a little brain power can help you to navigate the minefield that parenting can entail.
Many of your parenting attempts will fail. And that’s okay.
You must be flexible enough to have multiple solutions up your sleeve. When one doesn’t work, you can always try something else.
Know that your plans are always changing, too. It helps if you can go with the flow. This prevents you from getting frustrated when things are not going according to plans.
Good leadership skills
You might be able to boss your kids around, but they’ll resent it, and they never forget.
Great moms have good leadership skills. It is more effective to have good leadership skills and only throw your parental weight around when you have to.
Kids feel safe when they have reliable and dependable parents.
They have to know that you’re there for them. How much can your kids trust your word? How reliable do your friends consider you to be?
Kids need to develop and experience compassion. Kids need understanding and comforting.
Sense of humor
Your kids will give you plenty of opportunities to play and laugh. It would be a shame to allow those moments to go to waste. You’ll keep your sanity if you have a great sense of humor.
Children aren’t sure how to act. It’s up to you to be a role model.
You’ll find that kids react to situations in ways that mimic your reactions. They don’t know any other way.
It’s important to be self-aware enough to know whether you’re being a good role model.
Parenting is one job that requires your best effort and attention. Great kids most often have great parents.
Being a great mom isn’t easy, but it’s easier if you build these traits.
You can develop these traits with time, practice and determination. Be the best mom you can be and enjoy the process.
This post is a part of the series 31 Days of Parenting Tips for Busy Moms With Young Kids. Each day throughout the series I am discussing a different topic regarding parenting young kids. I’d love for you to follow along and share this series with moms who may need some support or just to hear that they aren’t alone in their journey of raising young kids.
Find all of the posts in one place on the series homepage: 31 Days of Parenting Tips for Busy Moms With Young Kids
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