On this episode of the podcast, I have a returning guest. I’m talking to Denis Tunca about taking your dreams to reality.
She was my very first guest on the podcast. Denis is a business visionary and strategy coach that gave us the tough love on why moms have a hard time pursuing their dreams in episode 1.
I wanted to have Denis back because I felt like we stopped right when things were getting good. We talked a lot about what gets moms hung up from pursuing their dreams, but didn’t talk about any next steps.
So I’ve got Denis back to help you with making your dreams become a reality.
What is stopping you from pursuing your dreams?
Denis answers this question simply. “We don’t believe in ourselves enough.”
As mothers, our lack of belief is one of the biggest roadblocks to seeing your dreams become a reality. We don’t believe that we have enough time. We don’t believe we can make our hobby a business. We don’t believe that what we have to sell will be enjoyed by others.
We also have fear as a roadblock. Fear of failure. Fear of what others will say or think.
Fear can cause you to not take action on your dreams. Then the excuses begin to form as a result.
If you are stalling due to lack of belief or fear acknowledge that this is your roadblock and make a decision to push through anyway.
The process of taking your dreams to reality
Denis has helped many clients make their dream a reality.
In this episode I really wanted Denis to walk us through a step by step process to get us started on pursuing our dreams.
Look in the mirror
“The first thing that I do with my clients is that I hold a mirror to them … when you’re within the frame, you can see the picture”
Take some time to do some reflection and see the big picture. The picture with you in it … “your personality, your strengths and what you’re capable of doing.”
And see that you are more than capable of doing whatever you dream of.'When you're within the frame, you can see the picture.'Click To Tweet
Let yourself dream
The next step is to dream.
What do you want to become?
What does that perfect life look like in your own business?
Then take some time to really dream and “feel it and taste it and see how that feels.”
Write a letter
While you can still feel and see your dream, write a letter.
Write a letter as your future self that has everything and accomplished those dreams to your present-day self that wants to become that person.
When you write “let it go and just let it flow on the page.” It is okay if you write one page or five pages.
When you are done writing the letter, read the letter.
Doing this exercise allows you to access your subconscious. When you are reading the letter you will begin to see what your issues are.
“You see what your problems are and then you take action steps towards if you have belief issues or limiting belief that you can not do some kind of thing or you cannot earn it, etc.”
Practice using affirmations
Once you see what your hang-ups are, use specific affirmations to repeat to yourself over and over.
For example, if you have an issue with trusting your judgment. Use an affirmation like, “I trust myself to make the best decisions.”
Say this “to yourself over and over and over again until you actually believe it, until your subconscious takes that up as a food or air.”Repeat affirmations multiple throughout the day to yourself until you actually believe what you are saying ... until your subconscious takes that up like food or air. Click To Tweet
Depending on your style Denis suggest doing what works for you.
You can write the affirmations down in a journal. You can listen to a recording with the affirmation throughout the day.
Whatever works best for you. Just make sure this is a daily habit.
Eventually “you will notice that you actually start to believe in it because your subconscious doesn’t know what’s real or what’s not. It works 24/7 and it takes everything that you give it.”
So feed your subconscious with positive thoughts to help you take your dreams to reality. Soon you will be able to live in what Kathy, from episode 6, describes as mama bliss.
Surround yourself with positivity
Next, you break down your dream into small achievable goals and start taking action.
Be sure to surround yourself with positive people that are where you want to be. Also, surround yourself with positivity.
Do your best to block negativity in your life. You know. The people that drain you and tell you that you should try to go after that dream because it’s too hard.
Or the depressing news station that gets you into a bad mood. Whatever you do, keep the negativity away from your eyes and ears.Whatever you do, keep the negativity away from your eyes and ears.Click To Tweet
Denis also warns us to be mindful of our environment.
“I don’t think they are aware of their environment. For all of us, that’s our biggest, biggest issue because we don’t know that we need positivity in our life because that’s our routine and routine is always the easiest thing for our body, for our mind to do. So they are not aware of it. When they are aware of it, they do take action to make a better life for themselves. But that awareness, if you lack it, you won’t be able to do anything about it.”
Manifester in You
Denis has a course called Manifester in You. I asked Denis to share with us what the course is about.
“I call it going back to childhood because if you think like you had a little one as well, they have no fear whatsoever. They don’t think about the outcome. They just do it because they believe they can do it.”
So what is manifestation? “It’s a source of energy. I call it a source of energy. Others call it God. Some call it your higher self. Some call it the universe because it’s all about energy.”
Denis explains that energy has to flow.
For example, if you want to have more money, you have to give money. You have to give in order to receive in order for the energy flow. If not, the energy stops and you will not get more money as you want.
Denis also has a 5-day challenge within her Facebook group, The Successful You. During this 5 day challenge, Denis will help you manifest any specified amount of money in 5 days.
After the 5-day challenge, Denis will be focusing on group coaching to help women build their own business and achieve happiness and freedom. If you would like to learn more or be apart of the group coaching, you can check it out here.
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- 2:43 – Fear causing a delay in action
- 3:38 – Look in the mirror
- 5:32 – Dream
- 6:41 – Write a letter to yourself
- 11:04 – Surround yourself with positivity
- 14:08 – Be aware of your environment
- 17:49 – Info on the course and challenge