Do you ever feel like life is coming at you like you’re playing a perpetual game of whack a mole?
Something comes up over here and you whack it down, something comes up over there and you whack it down.
Before you know it you’re spending days, weeks, months, and sometimes years waiting for the next thing to whack.
In this episode, my guest, Tracy, shares her FAB framework to get out of the rut and begin living a vision-driven life.
The first step is to focus on. Focus on you and who are at your core.
If you are having trouble with this, as yourself these questions:
What do you know for sure?
What are your absolutes?
The second step is to align. Align your thoughts with the woman you wish to become.
You have to believe in yourself and your vision. Be careful with I am statements and what you put behind I am.
The last step is to become. Become her in your everyday life, acting as if now.
Celebrate small wins and notice what you are noticing.
Listen to the full episode here to learn who to begin living a vision-driven life.
Tracy has been there too and with her experience as a mom, a former teacher, a certified Life Mastery Consultant, and a yogi with over 25 years of personal experience on the mat she helps busy moms regain control of their lives and get their joy back.
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Real Happy Mom 0:02
Hey there, I’m Tony and I have an overwhelming passion to help moms navigate motherhood without the overwhelm. I went from struggling with motherhood and losing my identity, to be productive and living out my version of being a happy mom. On the Real Happy Mom podcast, I interview real moms and experts to help you navigate raising children self care, time management, and so much more. So if you’re ready to get rid of the overwhelm, and start being a Real Happy Mom, join me inside the Real Happy Mom podcast. Hey there, welcome back to another episode of the Real Happy Mom podcast today, I have a very special treat for you. I have my guest, Tracy, who is actually a certified Life Mastery consultant and a yoga instructor for over 25 years. And she helps moms to regain their control over their lives and get their joy back. And in this episode, today, she is going to be sharing with us her fab framework. And I love this because she really focuses on having a vision driven life. And that is what she’s going to help us with today. So she shares her story about her son and how he was starting to mirror pretty much her behaviors and how she was able to change things about herself, so that she could be able to be that awesome mom that she’s always jumped up, as well. She talks about getting started with focusing on ourselves and how we can make time for ourselves and focus on the things that we can actually change versus things that we can’t, then also aligning ourselves with the vision that we have ourselves so that we can begin to have that vision driven life. And then lastly, she shares how we can become that woman that we dream up the woman that is the awesome mom, and super healthy and all of the things that we have for ourselves. So she shares with us the framework on how to go from feeling overwhelmed and defeated, to actually gaining control and living out the vision that we have for our lives. So if this is something that you know that you need, you definitely want to stay tuned and listen to this full episode. So let’s go ahead and jump into this week’s episode with Tracy.
Real Happy Mom 2:18
All right, Tracy, welcome to the podcast. Well, thank
Tracy B 2:21
you so much, Tony. And I’m super excited to be here today.
Real Happy Mom 2:24
Yes, and I am happy to talk to you and dive into our discussion today. But before we get into that, I just wanted you to share a little bit about you and what you do.
Tracy B 2:35
Yeah, okay. So I, when my son so this is kind of how it how I came to be in front of you today. When my son was about three years old, I noticed some concerning behavior, pessimism, and negativity and self loathing in a three year old. And that really got my attention. Now, I didn’t know it then. But he was getting it from me. He was mirroring me what was it What, what how I was feeling. Now on the outside, I was his mom, I was doing all the mom things I was happy. Right? On the inside, I was a hot mess. I was I was feeling out of control. I was feeling unbalanced. I was feeling isolated and really just like lacking joy, just enjoy this course you know that there’s a big contrast between how I was acting and how I was on the inside. And what I want more than anything for my kids is for them to be happy and confident and and to know that they matter. And I was teaching them the opposite. So, you know, at first I thought okay, well, there must be something wrong with him. So I delved into the, into the parenting books and all of that and then and then it kind of started to shift into Okay, so what can I do for me because I was I was I had brought a lot of baggage into motherhood from my childhood that hasn’t hadn’t been healed, and also the PTSD of his birth and brought that into it wasn’t fully healed. And so I got busy, I started I was reading books, I was going to retreats, going taking courses, I did a nine month yoga, teacher training. And then one day I just felt this nudge to go to a workshop. And I it was that moment changed my life. I met my coach, and I learned a completely different way of living, what I call a vision Driven Life way of living. And I’ve never looked back. And so now I get to take all of you know, and that those are some Those are some long, hard years. I mean it was it was about five years between the time I started pulling apart my life and the 10 and the time that I met my coach, but using Experience my experience as a life coach 30, almost 30 years of yoga on the mat, and I help help moms regain control of their lives, get their joy back, and really rock that work life balancing act. And I help them to do it in a you know, they don’t have to take all those years those, you know, long, hard years, and a staggering costs of becoming a coach and all of the all of the stuff that I’ve done in it, the yoga teacher training and all of that. And and here’s how I know that it that, that all of the work that I did was worth it. So it was a couple years ago, because we’re an elementary school. And we were I was overhearing a conversation in the backseat of the car. And they were talking about the color of their hearts, which I thought was interesting. And my son said, Well, your heart is just just black, because you’re annoying. And my daughter said, Well, your heart is red and blue with black spots on it. Because you’re just mean. And I said, you know, to stop that conversation in its tracks. I said, Well, what color is my heart? And my son said, like, just, oh, well, your heart is pink and yellow. And I said, Well, what does pink and yellow mean? And he said, pink means happiness. And yellow means kindness. And that just melted my pink and yellow heart. Because I knew that everything that I had done to that point, that it was all worth it. And that I have regained control of my life. I’ve gotten my joy back. And at that point, I was rocking the work life balancing act. And that’s it to me. And that’s kind of that’s a it’s been a journey. You know, motherhood is a journey period. But that’s my particular journey.
Real Happy Mom 6:37
Yes, yes. And I love that pink and yellow heart, I can see my phone saying
Tracy B 6:42
it was so it was so funny. Just like, you know, he didn’t even think about oh, here’s this pink and yellow. Oh, like they’d been thinking about it.
Real Happy Mom 6:49
Yes, yes. And I love that story. And I love how you brought up, you know, living a vision driven life. So I want you to share what that actually means. And what that actually looks like for us moms.
Tracy B 7:01
Yeah. So we are trained by loving people and society, to live life, according to circumstance. So if you have this degree, you can do this thing. If you have this amount of money, you can do this thing. If you’ve had these contacts, or these connections, you can do this thing. Now living a vision Driven Life is a completely different way. It’s a moving toward what you want, it’s really what I do is I help moms create a life vision. And that’s really it’s a decision toniann It’s a decision about what you want. Because we spend a lot of our lives playing what I call that you know that that game whack a mole at the fair, you know, we spend most of our lives playing whack a mole. And it’s because we’re not clear. So living a vision Driven Life is moving toward what you what you want, rather than pushing away from what you don’t, that that’s what living a vision Driven Life is about. And I will tell you, it is the most life giving way of living, I will never go back to the one in you know, I’m human. So I have those moments and I have to bring myself back to where am I headed. And that game of whack a mole it doesn’t completely go away. You know that game, you know, I like to say like, something comes up over here and you’ll whack it down and something comes up over here and your life and you whack it down. And before you know it you’ve been you’ve spent like days, weeks, months, sometimes years, whacking down the things that are coming your way, living a vision driven life, you know where you’re headed in is completely different. You don’t have to whack down all those things down.
Real Happy Mom 8:36
Yes, yes. And I love how you you, you paint the picture of that because I can definitely see the whack a mole and see yes. And life, especially this year.
Tracy B 8:45
Oh my gosh, this year is full of contrast right is full of things that we don’t want. Right? So we turn it around?
Real Happy Mom 8:54
Yes, yes. Now, I love how you described live in a vision driven life. I’m just wondering for moms that are listening who are feeling like they’re in a daze and life is just happening, or life is just passing them by what would you say is the first step, you know, to actually live in that vision driven life?
Tracy B 9:11
Yeah, so the way to live a vision driven driven life, I’ve put together what I call the fab framework. And the very first thing is, is focus. So it’s focusing on you and who you are at your core. And I’ll just tell a quick little story about about myself. When I became a mom, I quit my job. I I and I fully immersed myself in being a mom. Now in hindsight, I stayed home seven years too long. It was not for me, right? So I wasn’t living my life. I was doing what I what what you’re supposed to do when you broke what I thought you’re supposed to do. When you become a mom is you you know you focus on that. So you’re focusing on who you are. Not what everybody else is telling you that you’re supposed to be doing who you are at your core, and who you are, your core is all good, like, unapologetically you. And then you decide what you want. And the way you know, I get, I get some people who know exactly what they want. They just don’t know how to get there. But I talked to a lot of moms who really, and you know, I call it Mom, Nisha, where we have kids, and then we completely forget that we ever had a life before we had kids. If you’re coming from that space, then I’ll ask you the question, What do you know for sure, that’s the that’s the very first question that you want to ask yourself, you know, what are your absolutes, your absolute yeses, and your absolute nose, you know, these are your non negotiables. And that’s where I would start. And a lot of us, like you said, 2020 has been full of contrast, it’s been full of what we know that we don’t want. But instead of focusing on what we don’t want, we focus on solutions to the problems. You know, I hear up I talk to a lot of moms who just, they want balance, you know, they want balance in their lives. And first of all, there isn’t anything that that true balance is not possible, you know, we get when we’re focusing on work, we’re not focusing on failing or focusing on family, or we’re not focusing on work. So that’s there’s not true balance. I like to call a harmony, and it starts inside and it really starts, it starts with what does that look like for you? You know, and what does what does work life balance look like? And how does it feel? How does it feel to be you? So you’re you’re taking the things that you don’t want that your absolute knows? turning them around into solutions? Okay, and then moving in that direction? not focusing on the problem, but focusing on the solutions?
Real Happy Mom 11:50
Yes, and I love how you say that, because I feel like a lot of times in particular that we focus on the problems I know I do.
Unknown Speaker 11:56
I know it’s
Real Happy Mom 11:58
human nature, right? I will see and be like, Oh, no, no, no, but But yeah, definitely focusing on the solution. Like when you say that, I’m like, Oh, yeah, I could do this, this and this, instead of, you know, focusing on what’s wrong, or what I want to change. So I love that. But I’m thinking about the question about what are your absolutes, like? What are some of those non negotiables? Like, I know, for moms in particular, who are in that space, where you’re talking about what the mom needs and things like that? Yeah, I know, it’s gonna be kind of hard, because they’re so used to doing everything for everyone else. So I don’t think they know what those absolutes are. So help us kind of bring it down another level if we’re still having a problem with answering that question.
Tracy B 12:41
Yeah, you know, I would, I would start with, I would start with your ideal day, you know, what would you What would you love to be experiencing in a day now, here’s the thing, we can’t change people. We can’t change change other people. And I made that mistake, too. I spent a lot of you know, a lot, a lot, a lot of time trying to change my husband, for instance, we’ve been together for 25 years. And so I’ve spent a lot of time trying to change him. And then I realized, oh, if I if I focus on me, and that’s the F in the fab framework, that’s the focus. If I focus on me and what I want things around me change, but I would start with what would you like to do your day to feel to be like, how do you want to feel that’s a really good question to ask yourself, how do you want to feel now if you want to feel let’s say, you know, especially for moms, well rested, well rested and vibrant and energetic? Then you can’t be walking around all day saying I’m tired or acting you know, like, you know, sloshing through your day, right? So I would get what is your ideal day look like you know, and then and then what I do to tune in as I write it down, I write my vision down every day. I write down you know, who I am, I just started a podcast for moms. And I’ve been writing this down in my vision in my journal every single day for several years I waited a little too long but but I’ve been writing it down right in keeping what I want really upfront in my mind and that’s what I that’s how you that’s how you become who the mom you want to be. Does that make sense though? The you know, starting with with with what what are your absolutes like your absolute yes would be one of my absolute yeses is I am I am well rested, vibrant and energetic. I tell myself that every day. And okay, so if I’m if I am well rested, vibrant and energetic. What am I doing? What am I thinking? How am I acting, you know, if I if, let’s say, one of my, one of my absolutes is that I want to have a good relationship with my kids. So you have to define that. What does that mean? Now for me, it means being able to spend one on one time with them and that they feel like they can trust me. So you kind of you have to You decide what you want? And then you kind of have to be that mom. Now, you know you’re not waiting.
Unknown Speaker 15:07
Real Happy Mom 15:07
that answer your question? Yes, definitely. Yeah, that broke it down for me a lot better. I like that. Now you got us through the F, which is focusing on ourselves, let’s go through a in the bad framework.
Tracy B 15:19
Yeah, and I mentioned that just a little bit, but the a is align. So you, when you you create your vision you write, you write, you know, you’re writing down what it is that you that you want to be. And I say with that with the going back to the focus for a moment, I like to vision three years out. So your kids are going to be three years older, it’s going to be three years out, it gives your mind a chance to say, oh, a lot can happen in three years. Because if you say let’s say, you know, in six months, all of these things are going to happen, your mind is going to say forget it, that’s not going to happen. So aligning is aligning your thoughts with the woman that you that you wish to become, right? Because like I said, You’re not going if you’re if you’re if you’re going through the day, dragging and saying, Oh, I’m tight, you know, talking to your mom, tech and everybody, you know, I’m so tired. But what you want is to be well rested, vibrant and energetic, those do not align, right you don’t you you can’t have both. So it’s the training your mind. And, and believing you have to believe in yourself. And your vision, no amount of visioning or deciding what you want is going to, to bring that into being if you don’t believe it, you know, so and that’s also it’s just a little shifts, I like to say, I like to say, you know, in the beginning, when you’re when you’re just starting this and saying things instead of saying something like I am tired, because I am is a powerful phrase. And you want to be really careful what you put after the I Am, Joel Osteen actually said, he wrote a book called The power of I Am. And he said, whatever, you wouldn’t be careful what you put behind the I am because it will eventually find you. So you don’t want to be saying going around saying I am tired, or I am broke, or I am in a bad marriage or anything like that, you know, you but you can use little words like, I am shifting, I am shifting into learning or I am learning or maybe there’s a part of me that feels tired. If you feel like you have to say it. Because really, it’s not all of you that’s tired, or it’s not all of you that is you know, in a marriage that you want to that you want to be better. There’s a part of you, right? It’s not It’s not your whole being so little little shifts in your thinking so that you can align so and that’s the balance that I’m talking about the balance in your mind. I call it harmony, when you can have harmony inside, you can experience harmony on the outside, too. Yeah, that would be that would be a line. Yeah.
Real Happy Mom 17:47
And I and I totally get the whole balance party. And I think that’s the thing that a lot of moms want. They want that ideal balance. But the way that you describe it, yes, it is harmony, having everything working together without anything biting or taking up too much time or energy and things like that. So I’m definitely seeing how we can align our thoughts and our vision now that you say it that way, because I know that that’s one thing that I kind of get frustrated when I listen to like other podcasters and other speakers who talk about you know, mindset and things like that. I’m like, Ah, here we go with the woowoo stuff like,
Unknown Speaker 18:22
Real Happy Mom 18:23
Oh, let me get my affirmations together. And but when you say it like that with the with the I am statements, because I know I’m guilty of that. I will say I am and put some not so great things behind it. But But I love how you say that, because that definitely breaks it down to get us to understand like, hey, like, I need to watch it when I say I’m tired next time, because I know that my kids are picking up on that and starting to emulate that. Just like how you described in your story earlier.
Tracy B 18:55
Exactly. And I truly believe that little eyes, ears and hearts are always watching. You know, we don’t have to be saying it even. But they’re watching everything. You know, they’re learning how to navigate life by watching us we are their number one role model. So you know, Tony, and when you when we talk about them the F in the vision, you know, what do you want to be modeling for your kids? That would be a good question, too. How do you want to be showing up? You know, what do you want them to be learning?
Real Happy Mom 19:24
Yes, yes. Because that’s one thing that I’ve learned is, especially talking to a lot of the moms here on the podcast is that a lot of times when we’re trying to be better parents and to do better for our kids, we think that we have to you know, do certain things for them. But really it starts with us. It’s like our our behaviors and the things that we’re saying and thinking and things like that. So I love the Align part and yes, that is a good question to put in, in the in the focus part as far as you know what type of mom do I want to be for my kids? What do I want them to see? Because Yeah, I don’t want them to see a tired cranky mom all the time.
Tracy B 19:56
I know, right? I know. It’s it’s really the the A is it’s all about awareness. And that noticing if you’re not noticing that you are saying these things or that you are that you’re that you’re contradicting who you want to be, then you can’t change them. Right? So it’s kind of taking that in a little bit. Whoo, you know, but but taking that kind of observer, like, there are moments when we can kind of kind of notice, Oh, did I just say that or? No. So I know, I know, when I when I’m not taking care of myself. When I start when I start, when I start hearing myself talk and say, and think, Wow, who was that? Who’s Who said that? Was that me? But it’s that, that that observer, when you’re able to kind of take a step back, and Ooh, I’m going to turn that around. And so even if I am tired comes out of your mouth. You can you can fix it. You know, I like I like that. The I love visuals. And but I’m imagining like that, like a little truck with a BP BP? You know, like backing up, okay. No, you know what, there’s a part of me that feels tired. Or I am shifting into feeling well rested, vibrant, and energetic. You know, there’s just little in those little shifts in our thoughts and what we put out in the world. Huge, that can make a huge difference.
Real Happy Mom 21:18
Yeah. And you made me think about something because I had a conversation with a lady a few days ago. And I was just telling her my look like you make me uncomfortable, the way that you talk about yourself, like you’re constantly putting yourself down, like, stop. And then I’m like thinking, like, how many times have you do that to yourself?
Unknown Speaker 21:34
Real Happy Mom 21:36
Before you start going up on her, but I had to tell her like, look like, you’re fine. Like, you don’t have to constantly put yourself down and say like, Oh, I don’t know, and I can’t do it and things like that. And, and I was reminded of when I hear Cara Harvey talking on purpose of a mom podcast, she was talking about how, when she’s coaching other women, and they start talking bad about themselves, she’ll say, you know, don’t talk about my friend like that, because we even talk about our friends, the way that we talk about ourselves sometimes, but I love how you say, you know, to be an observer, and to, you know, watch those thoughts and the things that we’re saying, because it’s really funny when you do actually, like, take the time to like, actually listen to yourself and pay attention. Like, you’ll be like, Oh, yeah, I do need to check myself on that.
Tracy B 22:18
Like, I know, like you said, we we talk to ourselves in ways that we would never talk to another person. You know, it’s, it’s really, it’s an end. So I like to, I like to encourage moms to treat yourself like you like yourself, you know, treat yourself like you love yourself. You know, if you were loving yourself, then how would you talk? How would you talk to yourself? And then not not beating yourself up if you make a mistake? And you you know, and just like I said the beep, beep, beep and just backing up? Okay, well, wait a minute. I’m shifting. Oh, yeah. And it’s okay. And doing it all with grace. We are human. My mentor Mary Morrissey. She, she says she is one thought away from victimhood in any moment. And she’s been doing this, she’s like, 70, she’s in her early 70s. I think she’s been doing this work for 45 years. Right. And so it’s, it’s a it’s a practice, and it’s in its life giving, and you’re teaching your kids how to treat themselves, to love themselves to because you know, the only way that we’re going to teach them that we can tell them, love yourself, love yourself, love yourself. But we have to be we have to be we have to be that model.
Real Happy Mom 23:33
Yes, definitely. Now, yeah, you’ve given me a lot to think about and a lot of good stuff here with the framework. So we went through, focus a line and now we are at B, in the five framework,
Tracy B 23:47
B is become so and this is this is this is you know, they’re all important steps. But the become we don’t your vision, Marissa it’s three years out, right? And not to say that we ever have to wait three years. Because sometimes we decide and we start taking action and we are aligning our minds and bam, it’s just like lightspeed, right? But we don’t your vision is not a place to get to. You see, it’s not a goal to be reached. You become That woman is already inside of you that woman three years from today, she’s and you become her in your everyday life. So you’re not waiting until the kids get older or you know, you’re not waiting until you lose, you know, that 10 pounds. You’re not waiting for, you know, till you move into the new house. You’re acting as if now. So you are you know, and I like to use the woman that I’m becoming as my inner mentor and kind of asking her questions. I do this. I do this exercise where I asked, I asked, you know, asked, so what’s the what’s the next step that I can take? What is that what is the right step for me? And sometimes it’s going and talked and talking to Somebody like you toniann or, you know, but but asking yourself like, how did she get there? What steps did she have to take? And asking her questions, I like to do this exercise where I write a question with my dominant hand. And then I answer the question with my non dominant hand. Now when you’re you’re writing with your dominant hand, it’s, it just flows, you know, it’s just, it’s, it’s natural. When you’re writing with your non dominant hands, you have to take the time is really interesting the answers that you will get. So using your using your, your, the woman that you’re becoming as your inner mentor, and taking little tiny steps every day. And even if it’s that, you know, I like to celebrate wins, I’m big on celebrating wins. And even if it’s that noticing what you’re noticing, noticing, wow, I you know, I want to be well rested, feel well rested, vibrant, and energetic. But I just said I’m tired again. And so you know, just that noticing that that’s that’s huge. And then backing up and turning around. Oh, I am I am shifting into feeling well rested, vibrant and energetic. Or maybe there’s a part of me that feels tired. So the becoming starts now. We’re not waiting? Because then we’ll wait. We can wait. I mean, look, you know, if you think about, there’s never a good time to have a kid, there’s never really a good you just do you just do it. Right? So but you start with those little tiny steps. And as you take, you know, some days, maybe it’s just a take, making a phone call, or maybe it’s hitting that I that I’m in button on a website, or, or, you know, maybe it’s just that little different choice of food choice in your day, but little tiny steps every single day, you gain momentum. And here’s the thing about that. If you if you if you take these big bold steps, and then you stop, and then you take big bold steps, and then you stop you, you’re gonna get wishy washy results, right? Because this is what you’re This is what you’re telling the world and yourself. I want this not really I want this Not really. So every single day taking little tiny steps. And that’s I mean, tiny baby steps will take you up Mount Everest. So every day, little teeny tiny steps. That’s how you become?
Real Happy Mom 27:17
Yes, yes, I love all of that. And I don’t know which book I was listened to. I just finished two books at the same time. That’s probably I mean, think about that, when you’re talking about, you know, using the woman that you want to become as your mentor and axing her questions, because I think a lot of times, we kind of get stuck in thinking like, Oh, I could never do that I could, you know, I’m not gonna make it, it’s not gonna happen, or whatever the case is, but but I like being able to talk to that person, or even think like a person like, okay, like, 10 years from now, like, you know, I’m gonna be like, so super cool, I’m not gonna be stressed out, I’m not gonna be overweight, I’m not gonna be whatever it is. And I know, like, you know, in order to get there, I have to do X, Y, and Z. So and even like you said, we’re taking the small steps to, because a lot of times, I think, even for me, when I have really big goals, I get paralyzed by like, looking at the big picture and seeing like, what it is I want to do. And I think even as a mom, like looking at it, like, Oh, I want to do all these things for my kids, but it’s like, oh, my gosh, I thought why?
Real Happy Mom 28:26
Yeah, but you brought up a good point where you’re saying to take the baby set. So I love that. And I love how you broke that down to.
Unknown Speaker 28:33
Tracy B 28:34
in reverse engineering. That’s what that’s what we do. That’s what I do with the women that I work with those we pick one goal, right, because you know, when you’re, you’re thinking, Oh, my life three years from today, I like to do full spectrum, like all areas of life, but you’re just going to start with one goal at a time. 190 Day goal. And just little by little by little, when you try to do all of the things at the same time. It takes a long time, and you’re not getting that, you know, our brains need, they need those wins, right? So if we can focus on one thing at a time, and just reverse engineer, okay, this this is if I if I if this is what I want, you know, and just, you know, you back it away, to get back, get down, get back down and start taking those little tiny steps.
Real Happy Mom 29:22
Yes, yes. And I love how you brought up the little wins too, because I think that’s another thing. We don’t necessarily see the progress that we’re making, even though we are making progress, but it doesn’t look big enough in the big scheme of our, our big, you know, fab goals that you have put together for us. So I think sometimes we do need to take some time and look at like, Okay, what have I done and and celebrate those things like you said, because we don’t celebrate you enough and I wish we did do that more.
Tracy B 29:51
Yeah, and that’s exactly it. We I’m holding a workshop in a couple of weeks, and it’s in It’s really taking a look, especially this year, taking a look at 2020. And, and really I like to look at my calendar, I use my calendar, my calendar is I know you’re a calendar person. But I use my calendar to, to help me remind me of those little wins. So during this workshop, we take a look at 2020. Like, it’s not all bad. There are things that we and we need to celebrate them every day. For one thing we need to, you know, it’s going to help us in continuing to take those steps. Also, our brains need it and we’re teaching our kids to write, we’re teaching our kids to celebrate themselves, like everything. It’s not just the big wins, we celebrate the little wins. And I love that noticing what you’re noticing is when or with your kids responding rather than reacting, huge win, right? Let’s celebrate all of those wins. That’s how we become the women, the moms and our visions.
Real Happy Mom 30:57
Yes, yes. And I love this framework to this definitely breaks it down and makes it so that we can actually do that and become that that mom that we’ve always dreamed of and be and do the vision driven living that you had talked about earlier. So thank you for sharing your framework with us. And thank you for all this insight. Now, I just wanted you to share a little bit about how we can get in touch with you if we want to learn more about you or to just connect with you online.
Tracy B 31:25
Yes, absolutely. So I just started a podcast, the vision driven mom podcast, you can actually just just www vision driven mom podcast.com. You can also find me on Facebook at vision driven mom, Instagram vision driven mom, my my, my website is www dot one foot up.com. And yeah, that’s how that’s how you can get ahold of me. But that the the the podcast I’m super, super excited. I’m excited to have you on the podcast.
Real Happy Mom 32:03
Yes, definitely. I am super happy for you. Because Yeah, I love podcasting. This is like my favorite thing in the world to do. And I think you’re gonna love it just as much as me.
Tracy B 32:12
already. I get to meet amazing women like you. I mean, really? It’s been it’s been phenomenal. Yeah,
Real Happy Mom 32:19
yes, yes. So I will make sure to include all of those links in the show notes again, Tracy, thank you so much for coming on. I really appreciate it.
Tracy B 32:27
Oh, Tony, and this has been fantastic. Thank you so much for having me.
Real Happy Mom 32:31
Now, I hope you have enjoyed this episode that I had with Tracy Tracy is so awesome. And I love the the message that she shares about having this vision driven life because this is something as moms, I know that we want it deep down inside, but a lot of times we just don’t know how to do it. So if you’ve enjoyed this episode, do me a favor, rate and subscribe this podcast and let me know if this is something that resonated with you. You can send me a message via Instagram at Real Happy Mom and let me know what you thought about this week’s episode. And before you leave, we got to make sure that we are taking some steps to actually live in that vision driven life. So I’m challenging you today to go ahead and write out those things that Tracy talked about. She asked some questions, what do you know for sure? What are some of your absolutes. Go ahead write those things out and get started with creating that focus for yourself and eventually having that bad framework that she talked about in a live in that vision driven life now. I hope you enjoy this I will be back again next week for another full episode. Until then take care and with lots of love
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