You are a mom and being a mom is hard work! Yes, being a mom is beautiful and fun, but it can also be very challenging.
Parenting is a real job that few other jobs can compare to. And it’s especially hard when it feels like you’re losing your children’s love.
As a mom, you want your children to grow up to be the best they can be. So that means that you have to reprimand your child so that they know the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior.
This isn’t very popular with kids – particularly the ones who think they know it all!
It is even more difficult when your kids are in the rebellious stage, but your approach to parenting is going to be crucial.
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Tips for how to reprimand your child
Yes, you’re in charge while they’re under your roof. But how you teach them now can determine how well the lesson is absorbed and applied later in life.
Try these tips for parenting and how to reprimand your child without losing your their love.
Encourage open communication
You’ll have a great relationship with your kids if you continually encourage open communication. Even when they have grown up to be teenagers and young adults. In both positive and challenging situations, your desire to keep communication open will define your relationship with your children.
Some ways to encourage open communication:
- Ask your child about experiences at school each day.
- Show interest in what they are doing.
- Question what they are watching on tv or what they are playing with
When you encourage open communication with your child, they’ll feel more comfortable talking to you about anything. They’ll want to come to you for help with their challenges.
If you encourage honest discussion, it shows that you recognize your child’s maturity. Remember kids always like to feel older than they truly are!
Listen to their point of view
When you’re reprimanding your child, it’s still important to listen to their point of view. It is so easy to have the final say so and not listen to what they have to say first.
Show them that even though you have the final word, you respect their words and opinions.
It’s easier to gain compliance from your children when you listen to them. It also encourages discussion, even though you’ve already laid down the law.
Listening helps to keep you in check, too! If you were a little too stern with your kids, they’ll definitely want you to know that! It could help you assess your parenting skills as well.
Your child’s point of view may also help you look at situations differently. After all, it’s possible that you could have been incorrect or misinformed.
Be firm without anger
It’s important to learn how to be firm without becoming angry with your children. I know. It’s hard.
You’ll likely get some back talk, but avoid allowing that to fuel your anger. Focus on parenting first!
If you’re angry, wait until you’ve cooled down before reprimanding your child. It’s so easy to say the wrong things when you’re angry. You want to ensure you’re conveying the appropriate message to your child.
Ensure that the seriousness of the situation is communicated even if you aren’t angry. That means that you can’t be laughing when reprimanding your little one. You definitely want to avoid being taken lightly in the midst of a serious situation.
Nothing is worse than your child mistaken your smile as an okay to continue bad behavior.
Share your experiences
When reprimanding, sometimes it helps to share your own childhood experiences. Spend some time telling your child what happened to you in similar situations. Explain the impact of making one choice over the other.
Your child has more appreciation of your reprimanding when you share stories of similar experiences because it makes them feel like your position is based on actual experience rather than a desire to punish them!
Use other people’s experiences to bring the point home if you need to. You can find many ways to show how a bad decision can lead to terrible outcomes.
Your kids won’t be little forever. As they grow up and learn independence, your influence may slowly diminish.
Now’s the time to ensure you instill good values in your children that will last a lifetime.
Just remember to do it lovingly so your relationship continues to flourish.
This post is a part of the series 31 Days of Parenting Tips for Busy Moms With Young Kids. Each day throughout the series I am discussing a different topic regarding parenting young kids. I’d love for you to follow along and share this series with moms who may need some support or just to hear that they aren’t alone in their journey of raising young kids.
Find all of the posts in one place on the series homepage: 31 Days of Parenting Tips for Busy Moms With Young Kids
Hello Busi. This is a hard situation. I’m not sure what happens to little girls around 9-12 years old, but that is when I notice the attitudes start. You are not alone when it comes to your daughter listening to others more than you. This a universal problem with many kids. I would highly encourage you to talk to your brother’s girlfriend and express the things that you would like to help with your daughter and see if she wouldn’t mind helping you by talking to your daughter. I tag team with parents all the time at work. I know that they are not going to listen to their parents, so I make sure to have nice long talks so that they get the message. You are doing a good job, stay encouraged.
my name is Busi and im a young mom with two kids a girl and a boy.i love them so much and I cant imagine my life without them.im having a hard time with my old daughter shs 9 years but she has attitude and she does what she wants she never listens to me.but when surrounded by my brothers girlfriesnds she listens to them.i tried to show her good things and talking to her tried to understand her.i tried to be friendly but it doesn’t help.now shes stealing money I don’t understand coz shes a good kid she gets good grades at school all the teachers love her.please help me.