Comparing yourself to other moms is a sure way to reduce your confidence, motivation, and self-esteem.
It’s a sure way to make you feel like you are not enough, frustrated or have false confidence.
It must be natural to make these types of comparisons because everyone does it.
However, this doesn’t mean that it is a good thing.
If you want to become the best possible you, you have to avoid comparing yourself to other moms.
The dangers of comparing yourself to other moms
There are several challenges that occur when you compare yourself to other moms.
Let’s look at the dangers of comparison.
Everyone has a different starting point
You might be just learning to blog, but your friend has been blogging for 10 years.
Or you might be interested in photography to take Instagram worthy photos.
But you only have your iPhone and your friend has been using the best DSLR camera for months now.
You can’t compare progress, results, or success unless the starting points are the same. And they never are.
This isn’t fair.
You can’t compare yourself to anyone because you don’t have the same starting point.
Everyone has a different level of talent
Some people are born with a high IQ.
Some people naturally have amazing hand-eye coordination.
Others have a natural knack for music or math. Again, different starting points.
The resources available to you and another person are different
If you want to play the violin and your father is a wealthy concert violinist, you have a huge advantage over someone born into a financially-challenged family that has no experience in music.
We tend to compare ourselves to the best in the world
You don’t compare your Texas Hold’em skills to your neighbor the electrician.
You compare yourself to the tournament winners.
We don’t compare ourselves to the average.
We compare ourselves to the best the world has to offer.
There’s always someone better
There are only a handful of people that can make a reasonable claim to being the best at anything.
There are nearly eight billion people in the world. That’s a lot of people you have to surpass to be the best.
It’s easy to see why making comparisons can be dangerous.
There’s little to gain and too much risk.
Comparing yourself to others doesn’t provide useful information.
You’re only going to upset yourself, and that type of comparison isn’t fair in the first place.
The solution comparing yourself to other moms
Now you’re aware that you’re comparing yourself and the dangers of comparison.
Instead of comparing yourself to other moms you can try these things instead.
Compare yourself to yourself
A better option is to compare yourself to yourself.
Pay attention to your progress over time. Notice your improvement.
As long as you’re making headway, you have a good reason to be excited!
Strive to become better each day.
Limit your exposure to social media
In theory, social media exists to connect people. In actuality, social media is often used as a way of showing off.
You rarely get the real story.
What you get is someone’s best attempt to make their life look better than it really is.
Everyone, except you, seems to be living a spectacular life. It’s not true.
Be cautious with social media. Most people report being happier when they removed social media from their lives.
Use the success of others as inspiration
The success of others can be useful to you. You can study how they became so successful.
Their success can inspire you to become the best you can be. Just avoid comparing your success to theirs.
Do you compare yourself to other moms?
Making this type of comparison can be detrimental to your confidence and self-esteem.
Instead, compare your current version of yourself to the version of yourself from three months ago.
That’s a fair comparison to make. It becomes easy to see your progress or lack of progress.
The best comparison you can make is to your past self. Set a few goals and spend some time each day working on those goals.
You’ll be happy when you see the progress you’ve made.