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Have you caught yourself looking around and thinking that another person’s life is so amazing. Then look back at your life and … big sigh.
Well, I am back, after a much-needed break, and I want to help you to look at your life and smile and love it!
In this episode, I am sharing 12 tips to help you love your life. If I must say, your life is amazing! Yes, it may not be going exactly as planned. And things have definitely gone off course, but there are still a lot of great things going on that I want you to get excited about.
Check out this full episode to hear all 12 tips to love your life.
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Transcript of this episode
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You are listening to the Real Happy Mom podcast, the weekly podcast for busy working moms to get inspiration, encouragement and practical tips for this journey called motherhood. My name is Tony and and you are listening to Episode 147. Well, Hey there and welcome back to another episode. I know it’s been a while I have missed you so, so much, trust me, I have. And I have missed really just being on here talking to you, and also sharing some awesome guests with you. So thank you, thank you for being patient with me while I took some time off. Just a quick update on my world and what was going on. Honestly, the reason why I really needed the break is because I have taken on a new job within the Navy, which has been really great for me, because this job is one that will help me in my career. But it is also very challenging and time consuming.
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I
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did not now It took this much more of my time. Oh my goodness. So your girl was just overwhelmed with all of the things and just needed a timeout. So literally, I just took time to just kind of get caught up on that part of my life, I really didn’t even have a chance to do a whole lot of Real Happy Mom stuff, which is fine. But now I’m really really energized, I’m ready to get back. And I’m just excited to be back. And then also to the kids are going back to school.
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If you are like me, my kids are starting school the second week of August, and I have so many emotions and feelings about it. And it is just been. It’s just been interesting these past few months. I really enjoyed the summertime with the kids, but I’m definitely ready for them to get back. The thing is, is that my little one is going to get our garden and I’m gonna try not to cry when I drop him off to school. I said, I’m going to do do good and be a big girl and I cry. We’ll see how that goes. But um, okay, so going back to school, and they’re going back in person this year. And all the moms out there who have been going through the struggle with the pandemic about doing virtual school, going in school, blah, blah, blah. It’s just been crazy. And my husband, I feel like is a little bit more nervous about them going back in person. But you know, I don’t know. It’s a hard one. But I’m ready for them to go back. They’re ready to go back. And yeah, it’s happening. So that is happening as well. And then also to during that time off, I have been taken some time to focus on myself, and some healthier habits. And one of the ways that I have been able to do that is with this app called gnome, which I believe I’ve talked about a couple of times here before on the podcast noom is is my buddy is my friend. That is what helped me initially lose weight in the beginning. Before the pandemic even happened. Funny story. I had started with gnome I had dropped all this way I was looking super fun, ready for my sister’s wedding. And literally, I remember trying on dresses for my sister’s wedding and really feeling myself like I feel good. I look good. Like I was just like yes. And then the pandemic happened like literally like a couple weeks after that. And yeah, I deny handle my stress well and I gained so much weight and I just totally forgot about no because I was just like really embarrassed about my whole situation because I was just a mess me and sweet red and Moscato we was friends and my friend Jose we was friends too just a little too much. So as a result of that as well as eating up all the snacks in the pantry, I gained a ton of weight and now I’m ready to get it all off at noon just to put it out there this is not a diet or anything like that is all about healthy lifestyle. And the big thing that I’ve been improving on is drinking more water and moving my body more and that could be movement as far as exercise or just moving around because I am very sedentary because of my job and Moving around has definitely been helpful. So we’re focusing on that you want to learn more about noon shameless plug here. I have a blog post that I wrote about gnome and my experience with it. And I’ll make sure to include it in the show notes here. So that you can learn more about it. And if you want to try it out, definitely do it because it’s helped me so, so
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much.
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So that is what has been going on in
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my world.
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I hope you have been amazing. Like I said, I’ve really missed you. Before we jump into our episode for today, I want to make sure that I told you about the Facebook group. I know I have talked about this before, but if you have not already and you’re on Facebook, polies come and join your girl in the Facebook group, there is that party to the podcast, or we’ll have some more of the inspiration, encouragement going on in there, as well. There’s just some fun too. And then I also do monthly trainings in there and this month, I am hoping that I can bring something fun to this monthly training in the monthly trainings are using a an organizational tool called Trello. And Trello has become my BFF. I will tell you this, the first two, I think two times that I tried Trello I did not like it. Not a fan. No, no, no, no. And then I learned how to really use it and make it work for my life. And it has been a game changer for me. So in the Facebook group, I have done monthly training, show you how you can use Trello for, you know, daily planning, creating the meal plan, as well as a home management binder. And I think I’m gonna go through how to do a holiday plan for the month of August. So you definitely want to check it out. If you’re like Tony, I know nothing about Trello that is totally fine. You can come on and learn about Trello there and also how you can utilize it to make your life so much easier. Because I promise you I live by Trello Trello and Trello is up right now on my computer as we’re recording like Trello is the jam for me. So I want to show you how to use it, and how to make it work for you and your life. So join me inside of the Facebook group by going to Real Happy Mom comm slash community. And you can join me over there. Okay. So now that we have that out of the way, we are going to jump into this week’s episode where I’m going to be sharing with you some tips on how to live your life. tell you something, your life is amazing. And you can make it even more amazing. If you’re like Tony, I know it’s not it’s not amazing. Like you can make an amazing and I promise you when you start to look at some different things within your life, your whole mindset will shift and you’ll begin to love your life just like I have began to because I tell my husband all the time, don’t try and tell me I need more kids because I love my life. I love my life and my two children, they is the best. So I want to share these things with you. I hope they are super helpful for you. These are things that I have found that have been helpful for me as well as other moms out there, who I have collaborated with. And yeah, I just know that it’s time to stop looking at everyone else and start to look at yourself and enjoy what you already have. So we are going to start with numero uno here. So first thing I have on the list of ways that you can begin to start to enjoy your life is to find a mentor. And when I’m saying find a mentor, this is really just someone that’s gonna help you to get to whatever that ultimate goal is, whether it’s, you know, running a 5k, or getting in promotion at your job or, you know, starting a business, whatever it is that you are looking to improve in your life, find a mentor to help you and guide you, and lead you because you will start to see like you’re doing some awesome things in your life is truly awesome. So that is one way that you can start to begin to live your life. Number two I have is to check the people around you. Now, there is this viral video going out. I wouldn’t say video, it’s really the audio that people are using for their tic Tock videos. And basically the person is saying like you can’t change the people around you but you can change the people around you. And really you got to start checking these people who around you because I will be honest with you like at one point, I was like, why do I talk like this? Why do I think like this one day because I was just like I wasn’t always like this. I used to be all bubbly and happy. And I don’t feel like that anymore. And then when I really took some time to reflect it was because of the people I was hanging around with and the people are spending a lot of time with those people. People aren’t so bubbly. They say a lot of negative.
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So check yourself in check those people around you. And again, you can’t change them. But you can change those people who are around you, you can change, you know who you spend a whole lot of time with. Now I know it’s difficult, especially on the job, at least for me, it’s really hard. Sometimes when people get kind of, you know, negative and just being not so nice, you don’t want all that negative energy on you, too. So just make sure that you are able to separate yourself and distance yourself if you can, I know sometimes there’s certain projects or certain things that you have to do where you have to be around people, you can’t necessarily like walk away from them, but you can control how much you’re letting them like, beat into you. So they’re starting to say things you can start to cut that stuff off. But definitely look around you and see those friends, quote unquote, friends, who around you are those people really, you know, who you want to be like, because there is another out there that I like this as that you’re a reflection of the five people that you spend the most time with? So who are those people? Do you want to be like those people? because let me tell you something, I always want to make sure my friends are doing big things, because I want to make sure that I’m pushing myself and not getting just complacent or just really starting to be negative and getting stuck. So check that one. All right. Number three is Know your limits. I know a lot of times, I will push myself like none other. And my coach has been on here before and she has talked about how I will push and push and push. In sometimes like I will even forget about my own limits. But you really have to know what your limits are. Because you don’t want to push yourself, one to exhaustion or to to burnout. Or get yourself to a point where you feel like you know, you’re starting to question stuff like am I good enough for this? Can I do this. And it’s not necessarily because you can or you’re not able to is just because you are like just doing way too much and have pushed yourself far beyond your limits. So make sure that you take note of those, whether it be your limits on how much time you can spend on things, your limits on, you know, the actual activities that you’re participating in, like, if it’s something very strenuous, like certain exercises, like, you know, girl that you can’t lift 200 pounds, like stop it, like start with, you know, 20 or 30. and work your way up to that 200 deadlift, I know you think you can do it. But you want to know your limits, so you don’t hurt yourself, burn yourself out, or start to question yourself because you’re capable of doing some awesome things. And if you begin to recognize those limits, you can begin to work within those. And also start to push those limits to as well. But begin to start to see that your life is awesome, and begin to love it too, as well. So number four is get moving. This has been a big one for me, like I was saying earlier, like not necessarily that you have to exercise all the time, but just move your body like our bodies are meant to, to move to constantly be in motion. So this whole sitting down for long periods of time like this is what not how our bodies were designed to be. So when we’re moving, there’s a lot of things happening with us inside of us internally, as far as you know what’s going on on a microscopic level, what’s going on with our muscles inside of our brains as far as hormones that are being released, all of those really fun scientific things that I’m not going to get into. But I promise you just moving around will help to want to shift your mindset into so that you don’t get stuck and start feeling stagnant and things like that. So make sure that you’re moving around, whether it be just walking around the house, or even like sometimes like at work like if I’m sitting down at my desk for too long. I’ll stand up and just pace around while I’m making phone calls. Just to make sure that I’m not just sitting hours on end because that is not good for your health, it’s not good for your mind. So get some moving in a primacy you’ll start to feel a whole lot better. Okay, so that was number four. Number five, show some gratitude. And this is one thing that I really have to remind myself often to do, like literally sometimes I when I do get to do my evening routine the way I want to.
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I do try to incorporate doing some gratitude and I literally will take out a notebook and a pen and literally start writing down things I’m grateful for, whether it just be the most simple things, you know, as in like, I’m grateful that my AC is working today. I’m grateful that I have these This piece of paper over here, I’m grateful that, you know, I have my hair pants because my hair looks crazy when I don’t have enough hair pants, like, I will say some stuff that she’ll be like Tony and Peru, like you’re really saying you’re grateful for Yes, I’m grateful for all of those things. And the reason why is because once you start to become like, super grateful, and start to see all the awesome things that are going on, you’ll realize like your life is really, really great. And you’ll begin to start to love it. And so anytime that I do that I sit down and like I will try to fill up a whole paper before I go to sleep, or things that I’m grateful for now, don’t get me wrong, I do skip a lot. So it’s not like super, super forward stuff. Unless I have a lot more time on my hand. But I will sit down and try to write out a whole page of things I’m grateful for. And I promise you, I can’t go to sleep mad, I can’t go to sleep angry. I cannot go to sleep. upset that my life is terrible. Like, I just can’t because there’s too much to be grateful for after I have written all those things out. So take some time, show some gratitude, whether it be writing it down or telling someone Thank you showing someone that you’re grateful because I promise you, it’s going to change the way that you feel about your life and just in general. Okay, so we got number five for showing your gratitude. Number six is train your brain to find something good. Now, one of my favorite favorite exercises. I’m trying to remember who I heard this by oh my goodness, it was just somebody’s book. I’m wondering if it was Jensen toes, but I think it was hers. Yeah, I’ll find out. I’ll make sure I mentioned it next time, I want to say was Jensen tears book. Were in the book, it says okay, I want you to look around and for 20 seconds, just look around and try to identify all of the red objects in the room. So you’re looking around, you’re like, Okay, I see a red cup right there, I see a red ribbon over there see a red sticker? What we got over here, I got a red paperclip on my table. Okay, great. So we do that for, let’s say a minute. Now, close your eyes and try to remember all those red objects. Okay, I remember the curb the ribbon paperclip. Now, the next step is which I still close, try to identify all the yellow objects in the room.
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Now, can you do it?
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I know I couldn’t. Because my mind was so focused on the red objects, I didn’t see any of the yellow objects. And the funny thing was, is there was more yellow objects than red. But because my brain was so focused on all the red things in the room, I could not see all the yellow objects in the room. And the same thing goes true for things that’s going on your life when you’re so focused on all the bad things that are going on, or the all the things that aren’t going right, or all the things that you wish you could have done or wish things would have happened. I promise your brain can’t see all the good stuff that’s going on. So train your brain to find the good things that are going on in your life. And now it might sound like really difficult, especially if you’re going through a hard time Trust me. I know it’s hard when you’re going through health issues, financial issues, family issues, marital issues, it’s hard. But I promise you, you got to start with training your brain to find the good, and I promise you there is some good that is going on. But you got to train your brain to start to find it. And once you train your brain to do that, your brain will start to really pick up a lot of really great things that are going on so that you can begin to love your life. Alright, so we got number six. Now moving on number seven, is find one way to make the day special. This could literally just be something simple as like, for me, I got this frother I’m laughing at myself because it’s like that father was like, I don’t know $5. And my son uses it as a toy like he thinks it’s so cool to put it down on the counter and see it’s been around. But anyways, I got this father and like some days when I just want to make it a nice special day, I’ll take the father out and I’ll make sure I use the father when I’m making my chai tea because I love my chai tea. I love coffee. But depending on what the day is, you know, it depends on if it’s a coffee day or a tea day, I’ll use the frother and sometimes even for my coffee, I’ll use it if I want a big kind of Starbucks, like make my coffee fancy, but just doing something to make the day special. Or, you know, like it doesn’t necessarily have to be with the Father but it could just be like going outside and taking a walk or you know playing some song that you like that you haven’t heard in a long time. Just something different that you can do to make TODAY SPECIAL and that will help you to begin to see like how awesome Your life is and begin to love your life. So that was number seven. Number eight is dress up because when you Feel good, just look good. One thing that I have always done is when I’m really like feeling really funky, and I’m just like my mom, I will put something on that is very flattering or makes me feel very feminine and sexy, and it will change my entire mood. So if you’re feeling kind of frumpy and just funky, and try putting something on to make you feel good, start dressing up where they’re putting on a dress, put on those, those jeans that that make your butt look nice, whatever it is, dress up, see if you can find something that makes you You not only look good, but feel good too, as well. So number nine, is some new personal goals. Now I will tell you, sometimes I will get in a funk. And it’s just because I’m not really challenging myself and not really doing anything, I’m just kind of in the rhythm of routine, I’m not really pushing or doing anything new, and I will get really funky and sour. And when I start to set new, personal goals for myself, then it’s like, oh, yeah, so I said I wanted to read, you know, three books this month, or I wanted to, you know, drink more water every day, that’s something that I can look forward to and start to like, pump myself up and get excited about things again. So if you’re feeling kind of me, start setting some new personal goals. And if you need some help with that, I can definitely give you some, but it can, it doesn’t necessarily have to be anything too. too challenging, but just something to work towards. I said whether it be reading something that involves movement, or exercise, or even just trying something new. And that actually brings me to number 10, which is try something new. Because a lot of times I I think especially as we get older, we kind of get in the funk of just doing the same old, same old, and we forget how much fun it is to try something different. Like you know what it was like when you’re learning how to ride a bike or learning how to paint or whatever it is like it was fine. It was exciting like in the same thing can happen now and it can get you excited again and love in life in this just trying something new out. So
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I am currently not doing anything new. As of the moment, I was trying to do some calligraphy. But that is really hard, by the way. So kudos to all the ladies out there that do that because it is a lot harder than it looks. But I was trying to do some calligraphy and that was it. I’m gonna keep practicing. But it’s definitely time to try something new. I will say I have been a little plant mommy over here and been getting new plants and try not to kill them. So that’s kind of been my new jam. So definitely, we have some tips, please send them over for me on how not to kill your plants. Because I like my plants but they don’t sometimes like me. But back to what I was saying about trying something new. That will definitely get you pumped up and love in your life. So that was number 10. Now I got two more here. Two more tips. So number 11 is a
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laugh.
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Now, I have said this before. I know I’ve said it before on a couple other podcasts but I’ve said it when I’m guest speaking and things like that in in this that I love stand up comedy like I’m not really into like whore in drama movies, but I love some funny comedy stuff. Like I will sit down and watch stand up like all the time, because it is something about laughter that will change our whole mood. And you can’t be laughing and not feeling pretty good. I’m just saying like, it just doesn’t happen. Like when you’re laughing you’re feeling good that so definitely go on Netflix, I’m not sure if you don’t have Netflix, you can go on YouTube and Google fluffy that’s like one of my favorites to start with because he’s relatively clean. He’s not saying anything too crazy and most of his sketches but I love listening to fluffy. And He always makes me laugh. So watch them stand up, watch something on YouTube and get your laugh on and I promise you you’ll start feeling better. Now lastly, my last tip for find ways to love your real life is get outside. And I say this because I have learned about grounding. And this is just literally like getting your body whether it be your bare feet, you laying down on the ground, whatever just connected with the ground because I don’t remember all the science behind it. But basically when you start to like physically like get grounded, like it really works. To help you with, with your stress levels and just go out and be mindful. And getting outside I think is something that we haven’t been able to do a lot, especially with pandemic, let’s just be real. But just getting out in nature breathing, that good fresh air, help you’re not in a place that has all that pollution going on, but get some good fresh air. And just observing what’s going on outside can definitely help change your perspective, your your thoughts, your feelings in get you to start to see things and start loving your life. So those are my tips for loving your real life here. I hope this has been helpful for you. It’s been fun talking about these things. Like I said, these are all tips that I have either tried or have gotten from other moms, and I know that they will help you out. So take one of these 12 tips that I’ve given you today. This is my challenge, take just one and try them today. So whether it is I’m a run through these real quick finding the mentor, checking the people around you, number three, get and then knowing your limits. Number four, get moving or exercising. Number five, showing gratitude. Six was training your brain to find the good number eight was dress up number nine was set some new personal goals. Number 10 was trying something new 11 was laughing and number 12 was getting outside. So pick one of those tips. Try it out. And if you’re feeling real about put it in your Insta stories and tag me in there and be like this is one new thing that I am doing today to help me with love in my real life. Alright, tag me I want to see it. I want to support you to clap for you and cheer you on. Make sure you have gone over to the link Real Happy Mom comm slash community and join me in the Facebook group if you haven’t already. And stay tuned for next week for another full episode. You so much for listening and take care with lots of love.
