I am sure you heard the saying, “when you look good, you feel good.” Even though it may be cliche, it is true. But how can you feel confident when you look frumpy?
If you are feeling stuck in a rut with the same t-shirt and yoga pants, this is for you. My guest Alela shares how you can begin to piece together looks that work with your unique style or taste. In this episode you will find out:
- some quick and easy steps that you can take if you feel like you’re stuck in a rut.
- why it’s so important to make time to pick out your clothes as a mom
- how you can begin to get out of that struggle bus of feeling like you don’t know how to pick out clothes that are put together
If you are ready to look AND feel put together listen to this episode to learn how.
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Alela Sirah is a Los Angeles-based personal stylist who specializes in helping women over 30 after milestone events like pregnancy, career advancements, and major life transitions build an authentic wardrobe that’s easy to maintain. She shows her clients how to utilize trends as guides rather than style bandaids. In order to bridge the gap between style aesthetics, lifestyle needs, and body shape.
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Transcript of this episode
Toni-Ann Mayembe 0:04
For the weekly podcast of busy working moms to get inspiration, encouragement and practical tips for this journey. My name is Tony. Episode 177. Well, hey there and welcome back to another episode of The Real happy mom podcast. Super excited to be on today and have this episode on alive for you. Just because I had a really fun conversation with my guests, a Lila serais. A Lila is a stylist out in Los Angeles. And she really gives all the details on how we can start to feel better in our clothes, and begin to even look a lot better in our clothes. So if you were like how I was not too long ago, feeling kind of stuck in a rut or you’re just wearing the same old t shirt and jeans or yoga pants and a T shirt. I definitely want you to listen to this episode. Illumina is really good at showing you how you can start to begin to piece things together for yourself. Because a lot of times I know that I will ask someone a question to kind of get a step by step approach. But a lot of times we forget that we’re all individuals, and we are all unique in our own special way. So sometimes a step by step approach doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. But Alena finds a way to do that for us on this episode. So today, she talks to us about what are some quick and easy steps that we can begin to take when we feel in stuck in a rut. She also shares with us why it’s so important to make time to pick out our clothes as a mom, and then how we can begin to get out of that struggle bus of feeling like we don’t know how to pick out clothes, or don’t even know where to start when it comes to picking out clothes. And then lastly, I threw out a couple of interesting questions out to her. And she answered them very, very well. But you got to stay tuned to figure out what those things are. All right. Now before we jump into this week’s episode, I definitely want to make sure that you head over and join us inside of the real happy mom Facebook community. There, I will share some more information with you, as well as monthly Trello trainings and some more fun and goodness. And I definitely want to make sure that we are engaging and spending time together chatting to each other. Not just me talking to you, but you’re talking back to me. So come on over join me inside of the real happy mom Facebook community by going over to row happy mom.com/community. All right, now that we have that out of the way, let’s go ahead and jump on in to this week’s episode. All right, today, we got a list of right on the podcast. Welcome to the podcast.
Alela 2:48
Lila. Thank you for having me. Yes, super
Toni-Ann Mayembe 2:53
excited to talk to you today because we have a very fun topic. But before we jump into our discussion, I want to do to share a little bit about you and what you do.
Alela 3:04
I am a personal stylist, and stylists just in general. My client base is pretty much women in transition. So whether it be postpartum or just a mom in general, or women that are turning like a milestone, age or career change, and they just kind of want to get a refresh and redefine their style and reconnect with themselves style wise.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 3:26
Nice. And you are based out in Los Angeles, California. And yes, yes, that’s where all the fun trendy stuff is at. So sometimes I want you to share a little bit about how you even got started with this because I already was seeing some of the things that you put on, and you look very cute and trendy. But I’m pretty sure things probably weren’t always that way. Or maybe it was and then you kind of changed as far as your focus to these women in transition. So share with us a little bit about your story and how you began working with moms.
Alela 4:07
Well, I have always loved fashion since I was a little girl that you probably will hear that from a lot of people that are in fashion. Always been a love of mine. I have worked in the entertainment industry, from photo shoes to videos, independent films, things like that. About maybe eight years ago or so. I will nine years ago I had my first daughter. And when she was roughly about one, I went back to work. But my husband is musician so I can’t wear I didn’t really feel like I could travel the way that he was doing or work the same type of hours that he does. So I started working for Stitch Fix. That was a cool experience because it kind of helped me to you know, stick to what I know and be like sort of like, you know, home base and about me maybe three years ago, I left from Stitch Fix after I had my second daughter, and how I got into helping moms one because I worked with them while working at Stitch Fix. But also, I realized, like, after I had my second daughter, I realized I had like, kind of a moment, in my, in my fashion life sort of. And even with my older daughter, I did too, but I guess I didn’t spot it. I could, you know, pull myself together for events and you know, do different things. If I had somewhere to go, that wasn’t a problem. But when my second daughter was about six months old, we went on vacation. And you know, I packed all the everything that you need for your kids, you know, from cute swimsuits, accessories, you know, floaties, all of that good stuff. And then for myself, I just kind of like shocked at the last minute through whatever together. And we were gone for seven days. And I don’t really think that anybody has seen those pictures from that vacation. I hated the way I looked the entire time. And I was just so focused on my kids, and not on myself. And so I remember thinking after that, like, oh, that will never happen again. Because that just wasn’t fun. And at the time, I was nursing. So that’s a thing in itself. So it was just like, you know, just not a fun time for me to travel in that way and feel cute, because I think feeling cute is goes a long way. You know? So, long story short, the following year, we went on vacation, and I was like, I’m not going to get caught slipping again. So I about a month out, or maybe even two but about a month I started thinking about okay, what do I want to take with me? I don’t want to how do I want to feel? How do I want to look? How easy do I need to be? And from there, I just, you know made that happen. And when I went on vacation, it was so much easier, I felt so much better. I felt good. And that helped me to realize that I can’t be the only one that that happens to that you feel that way. And I have the tools to kind of pull myself out of that place. And not everybody does. And that was just for like vacation. But this happens to people on an everyday basis. And so that kind of helped me to kind of lean into that because I had that experience myself as a mom.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 7:25
I love your story, because I could definitely relate to a lot of that too. And not necessarily wasn’t a fashionista that was my middle sister. She’s the very fashion fashionably inclined one, I usually go to her for the advice and for her to kind of pull things together for me. But definitely after having the kids I kind of just was like, why don’t why didn’t really care. And it showed, but you you said something that really stuck out to me about feeling cute goes a long way. And it really does. Because I really feel like when you feel good, you look good. And vice versa. And I know a lot of times we’ll kind of roll out of bed and go some yoga pants on or throw on a t shirt and some jeans and keep it moving. And it really does affect our competence. And I know a lot of times moms say we want to do better, but like you said you knew like some of the things that you could do to kind of get out of that rut. But what are some easy steps for moms that are in that rut and want to get out of it? Like what are some things that they could do when they find themselves stuck?
Alela 8:33
Um, I think the first thing is to really acknowledge that, you know, because sometimes we can be in a rut and we don’t really realize it, but we know we don’t really feel like ourselves or feel that great. You know, I kind of liken it to when I you know, speak to my clients, it’s like, you know, when you go to like a wedding or you got a baby shower, or friend’s big brunch to go to or something like that, you will plan out your outfit, you know, you will plan you might even you know, go get your hair done, especially if it’s like a bigger occasion you get your makeup done or something like that. And you know, you’ll play with your outfit maybe a week or two before and get your nails done all of that stuff. And if you think about it, you end up most of the time feeling really great about how you look for that. There should be some level of that that you experience every day, not the hair and makeup part but just that you you feel good about it. So I will probably start with kind of taking inventory about how you feel when you get dressed. You know, we all have those moments where we kind of have a hesitation when we get ready to put on that same gray sweater and those same jeans or whatever the thing may be and you know you need to update it but you don’t make the time to do it or you don’t know where to start. I will say start with how you feel. And then if you check in with yourself if you find a bill that you don’t, you know, I don’t really like this or I don’t really feel that great when I get dressed on a regular basis. The next thing is think about how you want to feel when you get dressed. And that sounds, you know, super simple. But a lot of times we don’t take the time to check in with ourselves, especially as moms because I know for myself, I am trying to go from one task to another if not doing three at the same time.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 10:20
Yes, yes, I am totally with you on all of that. Because really quick, Leila. First of all, I want to shout out Stitch Fix, because Stitch Fix has saved my life. Because I’m definitely getting my rotation from them every other month. And the reason being is because I hate shopping. Like, I dislike it like a lot. Like I don’t like grocery shopping. I don’t like shopping for my clothes. Like, it’s just not fun. And part of the reason why is because I usually am kind of struggling with piecing things together or feeling like things don’t fit my body type. And that really bothers me. But I love what you said about thinking about how you want to feel, because when I’m talking to my stylist, when she’s getting ready to pick something out, I’ll tell her like, okay, you know, I want you to pick out something like sexy or edgy, because I have a date night coming up. Or I want you to pick up something cute, but comfy because I’m doing things around the house, or I’m running a lot of errands like so it’s so funny that you said think about how you want to feel because that’s exactly what I do. When I talk to my stylists about what clothes I want her to pick out for me like, this is how I want to feel I want to feel sexy, or I want to feel I want to feel cute, I want to feel trendy, that is different things that I think we don’t necessarily take into account. So I love love, love that you brought that up.
Alela 11:35
Yeah, I think that’s a great place to start. Because I think everybody kind of has a baseline of how they want to feel every day. And but we don’t really like think about it consciously. You know, but it’s like, if you think about the type of life that you are living, whether you’re a stay at home mom and like your your average, Thursday, dropping the kids off, you know, doing a grocery run, and, you know, maybe you know a few things paying bills, or what have you start straightening up picking the kids back up that type of thing. Yeah, you might need just, you know, athleisure clothes, but be like the ones that you’re wearing right now. And is there a way that you can upgrade that to where you feel cute, you know what I mean? You feel like, you don’t want to hide if you see somebody that you that, you know, targeting it and then also like, and that’s different for a mom that you know, has a nine to five, who is juggling that whole thing of getting everybody dressed in the morning and then dropping them off with want to work herself and then having to pick them up. And maybe your kids have bands after school. Like those things are two different feelings that you need to have or that you have in that experience. But think about how you want to experience that, you know what I mean? Like, you don’t want to get up and go to your closet every day and and just have an aversion to what’s in there. You know, so you definitely want to make that a thing. So it’s like, okay, you need something that’s easy, but you want it to be cute. You need something that goes for work, but you need it to work for when you get off of work because you change your shoes, because it’s easier for you with the kids because they have baseball practice. So these are the kinds of things that you want to you want to start with. Because when it’s practical, it makes it easy. And when it’s easy. It’s easier to do, if that makes sense.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 13:29
Oh, yeah, makes perfect sense. And I love those examples that you gave too. Because I think a lot of times we’ll hear people talking be like, Yeah, that sounds good. But like, how does that apply to me. And so I love that you broke that down. And the next thing that I really want you to touch on is picking out the clothes that that makes you feel good and comfortable? Like, are there certain things that you would say to start off with these particular items? Or start with this particular type of look? What would you say to that mom that’s ready to get in the closet and start updating things so that they can start to have that that feeling that they’ve always been wanting to have when they put on their clothes?
Alela 14:09
Well, I think everyone should remember that they’re an individual. You know, I think that a lot of times after you have kids, it’s like you think you need to Wear your striped t shirt in your car to get in your jeans and your booties. And that’s the look. And while that’s a great look, that does not work for everybody that does not make everybody feel like themselves. So I think the first thing is to think about whoever you were before you had kids or where you want it to be or what you liked. That’s your you’re the same person, that person is still in there. So start with that. It’s not a one size fits all with style. So again, going back to the example of the mom that you know, as a stay at home mom or a mom that works from home, it’s like what are the pieces that you’re going to wear the most what are the pieces that you put in rotation the most? So that might be that Do you need to get yourself some really cute sweatsuits? You know what I mean and buy yourself some nicer tennis shoes. Because that’s what you’re going to be in most of the time. And that’s what makes your life function. And then you want to think about things that if you do have to go somewhere that’s beyond what your everyday look is, how do you build upon that? So does that mean like, okay, maybe on Friday, you have lunch with a girlfriend, so Okay. Make sure that you compare one of those sweatshirts with a cute pair of jeans and a cute pair of slacks. For the mom that works, it might be that you work in a business casual environment. Okay, so think about what kind of colors that you like, how do you implement your personality into what you’re wearing. So if you’re edgy, but you work in a corporate environment, that might mean that you can play around with different patterns, not so much that you were like leather and spikes, because that may not work for your office. But you might be able to play around with different patterns, or you might be able to play around with different shoes. And again, think about what you wear the most. So if you’re in a, you know, office environment that is semi casual, or that you have to worry like business attire, then you’re going to need some really great pants and some really great skirts. How do you want them to feel do you like the fabric didn’t doesn’t need to be soft, like these are? I guess kind of like detailed things, but they go a long way. Because I don’t know about you. If you wear something that’s fuzzy, it’s hard for you to get on with your day and do what you need to do. So these are things that we want to think about when we’re going to get dressed. So we want to think about style and function and how are we representing our personality and ourselves? So kind of start with the basics. Like I said, if you work, think about what type of slacks that you need. Think about how they can transition with other pieces. And same thing if you’re a stay at home mom, or you’re around the house, you work from home, what kind of pieces can you do that are transitional to where you’re still within your element, and it works for you. So that’s good jeans, that’s good. Sweat suits, maybe even yoga pants, but you know, newer ones, fresher ones that work for your body. We just want to think practically, style is more practical, I think than most people realize.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 17:25
Yes, yes. And I think a lot of times like especially like moms like me who are like, Oh, I don’t like shopping, I don’t like doing all that. I think a lot of it is for me, I feel like the fear of messing it up and looking silly and avant, but you definitely brought up a good point about remembering that you’re an individual because I think we forget that a lot. And then also to thinking about, you know what pieces that we were the most I liked that you brought that up because I know when I am preparing for the week, because anyone who’s listened, y’all know I talk about my Sunday routine, like that is my go to decimal jail. And on Sunday, I am picking out my clothes for the entire week so that I don’t have to think about it. And for work, it’s pretty much uniform, like what I have to wear to work. So I don’t have to think too much about that. Just want to make sure that I don’t have too many wrinkles in my opinions. And I look presentable, but on the weekends and on Fridays, I really want to have like something so that when I’m usually doing date night with the hubby on Friday, so I want to look cute for that. And then to like, like you said, like I want something like cute but functional, so that I can get around and do things I need to do in the house. And definitely taken the time to get all that stuff prepared. Like really makes a huge difference. But I didn’t even think about like things like the colors and things like that. But I want you to talk to us a little bit about accessories too, because I think we forget about that like that can really kind of take things up a notch and make things even more fun and trendy. So what are your suggestions on some accessories that we can either try out or play with?
Alela 19:07
Well, actually, if I can go back really quick. Yes. So so when you were talking about like date night and like, a lot of times I know even for myself, like being a mom being busy and all those things. It’s like you look forward to date night, but sometimes if it’s happening on a Friday after a long week, you are like it’s date night. Okay. Let me let me prepare myself because I’m kind of tired. And I don’t want to do too much. But I still want to look cute. Am I right?
Toni-Ann Mayembe 19:34
Yes. Yeah. Very much so.
Alela 19:38
So you want to start with ways that you can build your outfit. So you want to start with Okay, thinking about where you guys are going. So if it’s something like the movies are like a more casual dinner, then you can start with jeans and like you know whatever shoes you want to wear because you’re running errands during the day, right? You could do like a cute white blouse. or you can do like a sweatshirt or something like that. That’s easy and functional for you moving about the day, right? But then when it comes to the evening, like I say, you’re like, oh my gosh, I gotta change clothes for date night. I’m looking forward to that. But I’m kind of tired. If you have a wardrobe that’s functional you can build upon, this is where the accessories come in, you can put on a cute pair of boots. With that, you can add a cute jacket, like a modal jacket or jackets or really in like a plaid one or something like that. And then this is where you can add fun stuff like different accessories as far as like layering your necklaces, or maybe even a boat necklace. If you are curious about hats, or you’re into hats, you can add a hat to that, especially if you were just running errands all day long. He didn’t really get around to comb your hair I had covers a multitude of sin. So you kind of want to think about building your outfit so that you don’t have to use a lot of brain space when it comes to getting ready in the evening. So that’s like one way to kind of use assessories. And then also another way to incorporate it into your actual life on a Friday, or whatever day it is.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 21:17
I love that. And I love the statement about hats covering a multitude of sins because Amen to that. Because yes, that’s what I was doing earlier before we started talking was running around with this hat on in a little halfway put together. And so I took my hat off. But you know what you brought something to it. Like one thing that I’ve been really exploring and really like, I like, I’ve noticed that I like a lot more. And I’ve been asking my stylist for when I’m requesting things from Stitch Fix our jacket, jackets and blazers. Like it’s really like crazy how a blazer can like make something looks so much better. Like it can like make something that’s like, like, it’s okay, you put that blazer on. That’s like oh, like now I’m feeling myself like I’m looking kind of cute now. So yeah, I’m into the jackets and blazers now.
Alela 22:11
Yeah, um, jackets are are kind of underrated in that sense. Because, again, like I was saying, if you have a good base, a simple base like jeans and a T shirt or like a classic white blouse, like you said, a blazer, or any type of jacket, that kind of has a little bit of oomph to it or embellishment or tailoring to it can definitely change your outfit around. And again, you know, simple is always good symbol goes a long way. So you can change out your shoes, put on some hills, put on some strappy sandals or some booty some boots, and make it work and have a completely you know, what feels like a different outfit. And you didn’t have to do that much.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 22:59
Yes, totally with you on that one. And one other thing that I wanted you to touch on too is how frequently would you say to actually go through your closet and like either Shopping from Your closet or getting rid of things that you’re no longer wearing? Like, how often would you say to at least go through things and make sure that you’re actually rotating in wearing things or getting things out that you’re no longer wearing?
Alela 23:28
Definitely seasonally, definitely. And the reason why I say that is because like if you think about it, we were like, in the middle of winter, even though I’m in Southern California is still you know, technically winter. And so it’s like, you get to December, and you pull out your boots that you weren’t from last year, maybe even a year or two before, and your same jacket and all of those things. So you want to do that seasonally, so that you can refresh, as you said, we actually refresh your wardrobe. You want to look at what you have, you want to make sure that it’s in good condition. If not, you want to take it to you know the shoe shop or you want to update your winter coat that you’re going to wear your winter jacket that you’re going to wear pretty much the whole season. You want to think about what are some of the things that you’re going to do during that time. Again, I’m a big person about how you feel. So it’s like, yeah, you might have the jacket that has lasted you the last five seasons, but does it still excite you when you put it on? And if the answer is no, then you probably need to update that. And then you kind of want to make sure that you’re staying true to your style, but you can also that’s a good time to see what trends are out there and kind of see how to implement them into what you already have. And if it’s realistic for you and And I would say that’s probably the best time to do it at the beginning are like pre preseason to have your wardrobe prepared, like how you were saying Being prepared is really important to you. And that goes a long way to especially being a busy mom. Like, once it gets up on you. You’re like, okay, oh, well, I’ll just put this jacket on, I’ll be fine. Not really thinking about how you’re filling in everyday that you’re wearing that?
Toni-Ann Mayembe 25:25
Yes, yes, I’m definitely that can be me sometimes until I literally started going through my closet. Like I took out stuff that I had, like, when I was back in dental school, which was 10 ish years ago. And I was like, why do I still have this? Like, it doesn’t even fit anymore? So definitely, I like how you said to look at things and rotating things out seasonally, because, yeah, we definitely want to make sure we keep things nice and fresh. And like you said, and making sure that we’re feeling good about what we have on. So I’m loving all of the tips that you have given us love and everything that you shared. I’m just wondering, Leila, if there was anything else that you wanted to share with us, busy working moms before we signed off.
Alela 26:12
I think the biggest thing is, it’s so funny right now, there’s this video that a lot of people are doing on Instagram, that’s a clip from Empire. I got it to take care of me first. And I think that that is something that women don’t always, or often do. We get in the throes of being a mom and being busy and just keeping the train on the tracks as I as I call it. And I think that you owe it to yourself to spend that time to look good and feel good. And not just for vanity purposes. But it’s also for just the morale of yourself. Because again, like I said, Before, you are a person prior to be coming a mom. So it’s important that you take care of you that you make that time to, you know, look good, feel good. Do inventory of your closet, to just explore who you are and what you like, is so important. And make sure you do it often. You know, because it’s easy to like, do it once and then you’re like, Oh, I’m good. And two years passed by and it’s not good. So just make sure that you’re checking in with yourself and that you’re using style more so as self care, then just a vanity thing because it does go a long way to helping you feel good about yourself and where you are in your life and even just identifying yourself remembering who you are.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 27:51
Yes, yes. And yes to all of that. I love it. Love it. Love it. Now, Lila if there is someone listening that is like, oh, I want to learn more about this lady here. I want to see what more she has going on. Where can we find you online.
Alela 28:05
You can find me at Elissa rod.com. Or you can find me on Instagram as well. My handle is the same Elissa Ra. And just a quick note, one of the reasons why I a partner from Stitch Fix while it’s a lovely company. I wasn’t feeling like I was able to give my clients a real customized look that was specific to them. And so that is definitely one of the things that I pride myself on is making sure that I’m tapping into my client’s actual needs. Because like I said before, I feel like if I can do that help you to figure out what your style is your needs. And make sure that it works for your body that flatters you. In the long run. It’s easier for you to maintain your style and it doesn’t feel like such a hassle. Because a lot of times if people just have a lot of trendy clothes and I’m just like, oh this is in now try this wear this. You’re not going to maintain that for yourself. But if it’s realistic, you’ll maintain it for yourself.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 29:08
Yes, definitely. And I will make sure to include all of those links in the show notes. I Lila thank you again for coming on. You have been amazing and I really appreciate you.
Alela 29:21
Oh, thank you so much for having me. And thank you for just lending your audience to me and your air to talk about style today. I appreciate it.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 29:31
Now that does it for this episode of The Real happy mom podcast to find the links in Show Notes head on over to Real happy mom.com/ 177 There you’ll find all the links that Lila mentioned and I hope that you have found this episode helpful. If you have you please do me a favor and share it with a friend because you know what they say Sharing is caring. So you can either take a screenshot of you listening to this episode, put it in your Insta Stories, Facebook stories or You can actually just share it like in a text message or an email to a friend and tell them Hey, check this up. Doing that will help me out so much. And help out another mom too. So, remember, sharing is caring, share it with a friend. And make sure to stay tuned for Tuesday for another full episode. Thursday from Miami taught Thursday. And on Saturday, we got some quick tips. So you want to make sure you stay tuned for all of that. All right.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 30:31
All right. I got one last question for you. I forgot to ask. See, that’s one. So you know, those family members that like to buy you stuff? Like, they’ll buy you shirts and dresses and things like that? And you’re like, Oh, that’s cute, but not for me. You know? Like, how do you deal with that? Like, do you just simply like re gift it? Give it away? Send it to Goodwill? Like, what do you do with those things?
Alela 30:57
Oh, that’s a conundrum. That’s a good question. Um, first, I will probably try to figure out what it is that they saw in it, you know, for me, and maybe figure out how to turn it into my style, you know what I mean? So like, how to either bring it up or tone it down, whichever direction needs to go in. So it might need some really fly shoes, and the shoes is what the outfit is based on and not the dress. And if it’s too spicy, figure out how to bring the spice in, you know, like adding a camp camisole under it, or what type of shoes that you wear, you know, you can’t wear orange hills with that, because you’re gonna look like you might be asking for a customer. So it all kind of depends on which direction. So at least try it. You know, try it, try it on at home and figure out what you can do with it. But if you really can’t do anything with it, I mean, it’s okay to be gifted. I will hold on to it, though for at least a few months before you re gift it. So in case that person is like whatever happened to her did you ever where you can you could truthfully say yes, because you tried it on in your bathroom? Isn’t that a lie? You still have it? So given you know, between three and six months before you give it away?
Toni-Ann Mayembe 32:24
I like that answer. That was perfect. I needed that because I get a lot of things and I’m like, huh, and you’re listening and you’re my family member, please don’t think it’s you like calm down. Okay, calm down, calm down. But yeah, I get some things and I’m like, But you know what’s so funny though? Lila, I’ve been seeing a lot of those videos of the girls that will go to like Goodwill and like get those like, ugly like grandma shirts and stuff from like, like, I don’t know, like five decades ago and like they can make it look so cute. Oh, I don’t like it. She can turn that around and make it look cute. Like, maybe there’s something I’m missing. So I like what you said about either turning the spice up turning it down or figuring out how you can make it work if you can make it work.
Alela 33:11
Yeah, for sure. I think what people don’t think about is like, the actual styling of something, you know what I mean? Because it might be like, it might need a belt, you might need to tuck it in, you might need to wear it as a shirt and not as a dress. You might need to open it up you know, wear it unbutton it so many different things roll up the sleeves and that can I transform things with those little simple things. So I would say at least try try just try a little bit and if it really truly is not working then yet you could send it on to to its rightful owner, whoever that may be.
Toni-Ann Mayembe 33:51
Yes, perfect. Perfect. Thank you for answering my one last question. I appreciate your welcome
