I get it. Juggling all of the demands of work, home and the kids leaves little time for you and your husband.
Your marriage shouldn’t be the last on your priority list. But what if it has? There are ways to rekindling your marriage and having fun with your husband again.
I talked to 9 moms and asked them how to keep your marriage fun and exciting.
Let’s face it.
If you are not having fun, you more than likely won’t enjoy whatever you’re doing. So check out what these moms do to keep the fun and excitement in their marriage.
How to keep your marriage fun and exciting
Alison | Little Blog Of Positivity
We’ve been married for twenty years this year! I can hardly believe it really, where did the time go?!
Along the way we have seen others flounder and yet, thankfully, we are still very much in love and very much together! Yes the initial passion fades, instead we have a warm and comforting glow.
In terms of what we do to keep it this way. Well, from the very start we have always made time for each other. We plan times in the week that we are going to spend together.
We’ve also tried to always plan in some new and different activities from time to time. They don’t necessarily have to be expensive or complicated things either.
For instance we recently went and played indoor crazy golf and we’ve also bought a hot tub following a hot tub weekend away! We spend time planning things together as well.
In fact we spend lots of time talking about things which I think is really important. Equally though, we have also always spent time away from each other.
We have our own friends and interests outside of our marriage. I definitely believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder and that it isn’t a good thing to live in each other’s pockets!
Iryna | Mindful Points
We go to dance classes once a week and bring our daughter 8 year old with us. This is how we actually met – at dance classes years ago.
We learn samba, tango, jive and other Latin-American dance. It is definitely fun to do it together, laughing from our mistakes and admire our results (and each other) in acquiring dancing skills
Travel!!! We travel quite a lot. Last year it was 2 times to Caribbean, 2 times drive to Florida, Quebec… it definitely helps to keep marriage fun. Also, as a family, we love watching TV about travel.
Rachel | Rachel Artis
Before our schedules got jam packed with kid activities, work & other commitments we were so carefree and spontaneous. When we realized our date nights were consisting of Netflix, comfy clothes and takeout, we realized we needed to add pizazz back to our relationship.
We now TRY once a month to rotate 1) going out for a spontaneous night of fun 2) Him planning a surprise date night 3) Me planning a surprise date night.
Let me tell you, it’s been invigorating! It’s like being young again, having our relationship back to the early stages of dating before all the responsibilities piled on.
A bonus is it really enhances the romance and gets you both back to that “I can’t keep my hands off you,” stage, except it’s even better now because you probably know each other’s love language better now than in the beginning.
Christel | Perfectly Blended and Blessed
My husband and I are a blended family and have been married for almost 5 years. With 8 children, 6 still living at home, schedules can get a little hectic.
We have found that the best way for us to keep our marriage fun and exciting is to be intentional.
We are both intentional about using our words to remind one another they are appreciated. We are intentional about saying thank you for things as simple as making dinner.
Lastly, we are intentional about physically connecting each day. We are true believers that a 20 second hug releases oxytocin, also known as the bonding hormone. Keeping our marriage is simple. We both can find 20 seconds.
Kat | Seconds To Impress
“The Hubster” and I are all about maintaining and growing our friendship. While we have only been married for about 8 years, our friendship keeps our relationship alive and moving forward.
It’s what keeps us coming back to say, “Hey, I like you, let’s keep hanging out together!” We try to explore new food (whether cooking or new Portland restaurants that we haven’t tried), TV shows (we both have the same sense of zany humor… we pretty much have “The Office” memorized), exercise (we both do CrossFit 5x/week together), and ways to create together (we like to take zany cover pictures for my blog and personal styling business).
The more we genuinely having fun and doing things together, the easier it is to let go of minor annoyances with each other and truly enjoy each other’s company.
McKinzie | Moms Make Cents
It’s the little things in life that really can bring joy in a marriage. To keep things fresh and fun we are always trying to surprise each other.
This last year I had so much fun doing a week full of small surprises. One day I surprised him and got him a soda and a cookie and we spontaneously went on a drive. Another day I made him his favorite queso and we dreamed together about a trip to Mexico.
Each day I put together a little rhyming clue and I was so excited to give it to him. It was such a silly small thing, but for use it made our week and brought us closer.
Olivia | Happy in the Hollow
With two little kids, finding the time and energy to have a conversation, let alone having fun, can be challenging.
We don’t have any relatives in town to help out, and most friends have young families of their own. At some point we realized that if we don’t plan for dedicated time for ourselves, it just won’t happen.
It may sound terribly unexciting, but budgeting money for a babysitter and setting aside a weekend afternoon every week is what helps us find our way back together. Just breaking out of the routine (my husband calls it the “slog”) of everyday life with littles and doing something together is refreshing.
We take turns choosing activities, everything from watching a movie to taking a hike, snowshoeing, visiting an art exhibit or just having coffee and chatting. It’s a little bit like dating all over again.
Lily | FindingBalance.Mom
The one single thing I try to do everyday to keep my marriage fun and exciting is sharing non-sexual touch with my husband.
We don’t realize it most times but being playful with your mate creates a newness in marriage. It’s the little things like pillow fights in bed (the kids can join in!), stealing his food off his plate… that keep the spark.
Thank you to all of the ladies that contributed to this amazing post! These tips for moms would not be possible without the contributions these amazing moms.
What do you like to do to keep your marriage fun and exciting? Let me know in the comments.