Before You Give Up, Let’s Talk

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I know that 2020 has been a year for the history books. As a mother, it has been even more challenging with schools going virtual, being with your kids while working from home, and don’t forget the hard conversations about race in the US. With everything that has happened, I know right now, more than ever, we need a little pep talk to get us ready for the new year.

Even if you are listening to this episode in the middle of the year, this is a perfect time to reset. I brought my coach and friend, Jessica to give us the pep talk that we need to be ready to tackle our goals and take better care of ourselves.

In this episode we talk about:

What it means to press pause on your dreams
The difference between consistency and frequency
Because life is going to happen, how Jessica figured things out
Instead of looking at the big picture, taking life and your goals one day at a time
Creating an ideal day
How to determine what is a priority
Why you need to have fun and something fun to look forward to

About

Jessica is a blogger, podcaster and coach that helps #GoalGetters ditch the excuses, do the work + make ish happen!

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Transcript of this episode

Real Happy Mom 0:02
Hey there, Mom, are you juggling all the things and motherhood for managing your time getting healthy meals on the table to being a present, like all while making yourself a priority without feeling guilty? I get it. It’s overwhelming. And guess what? The fact that you need support doesn’t make you a bad mom. And that’s why I created the Real Happy Mom podcast. I’m toniann, a wife and a mom of two little boys as well as a general dentist and reservists in the Navy. And I get it when it comes to being a busy working mom. On the Real Happy Mom podcast. I’ll interview real moms to chat about real life experiences. These guests and experts will help you to navigate the motherhood journey by providing answers to your questions and concerns surrounding raising children, self care time management, and so much more. So if you’re ready to get rid of the overwhelm, and start being a Real Happy Mom, join me inside the Real Happy Mom podcast.

Real Happy Mom 0:53
And welcome back to another episode of the Real Happy Mom podcast. This is episode number 113. And today, I am so excited and so honored to have Jessica on today, Jessica is my coach and my friend. And she is coming on today to help us with getting ready for 2021. She talks a lot about you know how she struggled with some things during the year, but was able to overcome some of the challenges that were presented to her and how she had to press pause on a lot of things that she was actually in the process of building. She reminded us in this episode, that life is always going to light and we just gonna have to figure things out, and how we need to focus our attention so that we don’t get ourselves overwhelmed and burnt out. So in this episode, Jessica talks about some pillars and how those pillars are her focus, and then how she’s able to determine what is actually a priority. Because let’s just be honest, moms, it seems like everything is a priority, and everything needs to get done right right now. But in this episode, I promise you, this is gonna be what you need to get you ready for the new year. And even if you are already listening to this in 2021, this is gonna be what you need to get you through the next week, the next day, next month, whatever it is that you’re in the middle of. But before we jump into this episode, I want to take a quick second and just let you know that I have started offering coaching sessions. These are coaching sessions for you busy working moms that need some help with managing all the things because let’s just be honest, it gets a really tough trying to figure out how to get everything done with a little bit of time. Now as a full time working mom, in addition to having a part time job as a reservist in Real Happy Mom, I’ve learned how to really get really efficient with my time. And I’m learning how to show other moms just like you how to do it too. So I want you to go over to Real Happy Mom comm slash coaching if you want to get some help, so that I can help you stop being overwhelmed, stop being burnt out. And finally start investing so that you can have time to do the things that you want to do. Like I said, Go to Real Happy mom.com slash coaching to go ahead and get signed up so that we can get started. So now that we have that out the way let’s go ahead and jump into Episode 113 with Jessica.

Jessica Lauren 3:14
All right, I have my special guest, my friend, my mentor, my coach, Jessica on the podcast. Welcome to the podcast. Hi, Tony. excited to finally have you now let me just give everyone a quick rundown of like how this connection came to be. So I don’t know how. But I got introduced to Kate doster. And I listened to Kate doctors podcasts. One day, I was listening to Kate that certain By the way, if you’re into needing some email marketing help and things like that, she is your go to girl, I’ll make sure to include that link in the show notes. I was listening to the podcast episode one day and you are on and I was like, Oh my goodness, who’s this girl? I was like, I like her. I really liked her. And then at the end of the show she was you’re like yeah, and I have my own podcasts, the Sunday jumpstart. So then I started listening to the Sunday jumpstart, listened to that for a few months. And then you had opened up your coaching and I became one of your clients. And then yeah, that’s kind of how the story all began. And that’s how the connection came. And I’m just like, so happy to finally have you on as a guest. And a friend too, because we have come a long way we can help me.

Jessica Lauren 4:23
Thank you for having me come on the show. It’s been crazy, just like how everything works out like how we all met through Kate and Kate became our email marketing coach. And I feel like we’re just like playing volleyball with each other. passing the baton on. Yes, yes. And one of the things that I wanted to have you on is because this episode is going to be coming out at the end of the year. And I wanted to to give us kind of that, that we needed to go into 2021. But before we jump into that, I just wanted you to share a little bit about you what you do, and all that good stuff. Okay, cool. Well, thank you. So

Jessica Lauren 5:00
Like Tonya said, I am the host of the Sunday jumpstart podcast is a weekly podcast that helps go get us dissed, excuses, do the work and make it happen. I’m also a digital content creator. I’m

Unknown Speaker 5:13
a blogger,

Jessica Lauren 5:14
all of which has kind of I hit pause on because 2020 kicked my butt like, in the best ways, and in the worst, like most of us, but I’m finally Tony and you’re gonna rejoice when you hear this, I’m finally getting my mojo back. Like I sat down, wrote out my editorial calendar actually made the content just because it was a lot going on this year, I went from freelancing and having like a really flexible, loose schedule, to having to get a full time job. And I thought like, oh, that’d be easy girl that we’re trying to juggle that. And being in a new relationship, and we just bought a house like it just was like that. So that’s what I do is i’m super passionate about helping go getters, like, just stop with excuses. We have a ton of them, even if they’re valid and just go after those things that God has purposed in our heart. So that’s me, in a nutshell. Yes, yes. And one thing that I love is that there’s a lot of coaches out there that kind of have that, that Hustle, Hustle, Hustle, grind, grind grind mentality and who are pretty hardcore, because I think I told you this that I used to dance competitively. So I’m used to people being like, really harsh, and like saying really harsh things to me, and I can take it, but not everybody is into that. And that’s one thing that I love about you is that you’re like really gentle like, okay, boo, like, I know, you have a hard time. We’re gonna work this out. I’m like you, I’m one of those people. So I have a theater background, and we will get red for filth like, you know, if we didn’t show it the way they thought we should. And it impacted my mental health in such a negative way. I don’t respond well to tough love. I never have my mama, we were being bad. All she had to do is whisper like, Jessica, you’re making me sad. And I’m like, oh my god. So all that tough love go hard stuff. It never works for me, I’m always attracted to just like a gentler approach. So that’s why my approach is like that. And I get it. Like, I would love I used to pride myself on being this machine. Like, I have 60 things on my to do list today. And I crushed them all I was very much like a Gary Vee kind of lifestyle person. But it broke me down. Like I was chronically exhausted, fatigued all the time, not eating, right. And I was just like, wait a minute, if I want to be entrepreneur, or creative or whatever label I want, this has to be sustainable and is not right now. So I have to figure out a way to try but try easier. And that’s been my philosophy ever since that. And it is weird, because, you know, as a type a enneagram three type of person. I love productivity, but it just wasn’t loving me back. You know me like it just was crushing me. So I’ve had to learn to like, take breaks when I need it. Because I’ve been in the game five years now. And I think for the first four, I was running on all four cylinders. This year, it was like grow, now’s the time to take a break because the world has taken a break. And I leaned into that, and I feel so much better for Tony. And I really do. Yes, yes. And, and you bought something there about, you know, kind of scaling things back. And I know that was kind of scary because you’re like, Oh my God, look, if I’m not working, what am I gonna do? Like, yeah, what’s gonna happen? So I just want you to talk to us about that and how you felt and how you’re

Jessica Lauren 8:42
that girl? Okay, so you know, we all have that fear. Like if I scale back listenership will drive if I don’t show up on if I take a break from Instagram, I’ll lose all my followers. If I stop coaching. I’ll never coach again in this town before. Well, I’m so grateful that I came from acting because you could book something one day and not book again for another five years or whatever. And I think it just taught me that like, regardless, the work will come when it’s supposed to. So I was just willing to take that risk. Like Listen, I have to press pause, otherwise our quit that was the thing it was like, either press pause or give up and I didn’t want to give up so I think um, because of my acting career, nothing really came easier came overnight. I have the like, the stamina to be like, okay, it’s not working now. But if I keep going, it will. So I just knew like I had to press pause and was crazy with every time I’ve taken a break. My listenership goes up my Instagram followers go up. I have more people that’s like, Hey, you know, I miss you. Can we meet like, I actually get more clients when I do take a break. So it’s this weird thing. And I had this revelation through Marika Evans. I don’t know if you follow her Instagram, she did this really quick, it was only like three slides on Instagram where she was just like, you know, we’re all told that we have to show up and be consistent. But I think where confusing consistency and frequency, consistency is more of the quality of your work. Like when I show up, I’m going to give my 1,000% best, but frequency is more. So I have to show up every day that are that. And that just put off a light bulb in me like I don’t have to show up seven times a day and posts, you know, a million Instagram stories to be impactful. But when I do show up, I wanted to I’m setting the intention that hopefully it’ll help somebody else. And once that light bulb went off, I was able to be like, okay, let’s scale back a little bit. It was scary, because I was starting to that was my livelihood at the time. But I had to because I was going crazy. So that kind of helped out as well. Yeah. Now one of the things that happened in 2020, for you, that you mentioned earlier, was that you went from freelancing to working full time, and I was with you during that transition as your client. And so sorry.

Jessica Lauren 11:11
Sorry, I was a terrible coach. I was like, Tony, I can I know I came. And it was it was it was also not only just work, my stepdad guy, Kobe, he got deathly ill, you know, like, he’s 66. And I live out of state, like, I’m five hours away from my family. So it was that I was going, it was just a lot personally that I haven’t even shared with a lot of people. So I was like, I can’t do this, Tony, I’m so sorry. But it was hard. I just thought like, Oh, you know, if I you know, my hours at the time, were 11 to six, right? Not not that bad. So I was like, I must still wake up at four. I don’t have to leave the house till 10 I’m gonna do all my things. But we want a boy viral I work for the only black woman owned bookstore in Chicago. And around the time of George Floyd’s untimely death, we just blew up because everybody was trying to look for anti racism, anti racist books. And so people started sharing like, these are black bookstores you should follow and purchase from and so we went from like fulfilling, you know, like, 300 orders a week to like 300 fat, like, it was crazy. So I went from like, I’m just working, you know, seven hours a day to like, grobman is 1620 hours a day, and everything just fell apart the coach in the podcast, and it was such a slice of humble pie. You know, I like I said, I prided myself on being like, I got it together. I could do all things. I’m a go getter. And it was like, Girl, Yes, you are. But also life is laughing right now. And I think, you know, on Instagram, everybody just makes it seem like, Oh, it’s so seamless and flawless. And I’ll just delegate and I’ll just do this. But chat. It was a lot and I couldn’t I just couldn’t handle it. And so I pause while my clients if I can we take a few months. I promise I won’t charge extra or anything. I just need some time. And it just was a lot like it was crazy. But we got through that and work is still really busy. But I recently like around a couple weeks before Thanksgiving, like, Jessica, my wife is always going to life, you know me like and you have to just figure it out. And I think because I have freelance, I’ve had a real job since 2013. So for seven years, I was used to just have all the time in the world time was my biggest luxury. I didn’t understand I just I just didn’t get it until he got taken away from me. And I was like, Oh, I need a break. Or I need a pause and I was like No, this is what people have been dealing with this whole time. Like how do you chase after your dreams when you have kids when you have a household when you are a dentist and like how and I just took that for granted now I see like you have to push through it like you have to just make it work. So I apologize to you for being a sucky coaster cuz I can’t do it. But now I feel like I’m finally just got my mojo back the passion back it also just made me just like, I’m tired. I don’t want to do any of this anymore. I’m

Unknown Speaker 14:31
scared I’m broke. I’m

Jessica Lauren 14:33
so it just came back like literally like a couple weeks ago. Yes. Now first of all, you are not a sucky coach. You’re still amazing, but it shows the humanity I feel like as a coach like, like she’s not Superwoman. She doesn’t have a case even though sometimes I thought you did wear a cape. And I was like, okay, so she’s just like me, so it’s okay to take a break. And that’s one thing. I wish that more people understood that you don’t have to push so hard on The time because you’ll end up burnt out. And in a really not so great place. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And that was one of the things that I was trying to impress upon you you are, you do have okay. Like y’all notice Tony and just goes hard. And there’ll be some times where you’d be frustrated, I’d be like Tony, and this is coming from your seasoned productivity ancestor, girl, you ain’t got to go that hard. Okay, take a break, please sit your butt down. Because Honey, I can’t foresee the future for you. But I get it because it’s the passion and you know, you’re so close to things and you got to go. But it’s I guess the the challenge is every day is just trying to figure out how do I strike that balance, if that’s even a word I just think is some days the podcast is up some days the blog is down. Sometimes I take care of my kids, sometimes they get you know, the iPad and some chicken nuggets. It’s

Unknown Speaker 16:00
what it is, you know?

Jessica Lauren 16:02
Yeah, no, definitely I get it. And I feel like 2020 is really, really shown us that like, you know, like you said, life is always gonna life. But in particular, I feel like you’re really liked in 2020. But in preparation for 2021, I’m just thinking, Okay, we’ve gone through all these things, we’ve experienced some hardships, everyone has experienced something in 2020, whether it be you know, sickness, whether it be all the social unrest that happened to how it got you to have conversations that are really uncomfortable, whether it be you know, death of the celebrities, like, Oh, my God, I’m still like, choking up about Kobe Bryant in person. But it’s a lot of things that have happened this year, that have really been difficult. But I know that there’s also been some really good things that have come out of it too, because I’ve had to slow down to even say that I go hard when

Unknown Speaker 16:53
I’m down

Jessica Lauren 16:54
a little bit, just a little bit. And I’m in is really forced me to see like, what’s really important. I feel like that’s what it’s really taught me like, what truly matters to you, when I take all the things away what really matters. And I’m just thinking about moving forward going into 2021? What are some things that we should keep in mind, as far as you know, either putting together goals or just where we can do better with mindset? I would say, in particular with pursuing our goals? Yeah, that’s a great question. For me. I’ve had to shift a little bit and not be so aerial minded. Like sometimes we look so deeply at the bigger picture, like six months from now, three months from now, quarter one, quarter two. For me, I’ve been my best when I literally take it one day at a time, right. So it’s December luck. Clearly, we’re all going to be like trying to forecast for 2021. But 2020 showed us we literally can’t like we don’t even know if the world is about to be open in the next few months. But what I can do is what needs to be done today. Today. I know like in order for you example, you’re like, Listen, I have to deal with my clients. I have to record this podcast, I have to do stuff for you know, my marriage, and I have to be short for my kids. Okay, so what what does that look like today? Like, I can’t necessarily focus on tomorrow. You know, it’s a scripture in the Bible that says, literally, I’m paraphrasing, of course, but be present today. Tomorrow has enough worries for tomorrow, like, life has so much in line for you tomorrow that when you get there, there’ll be enough to worry about so literally just focus on today. So how I plan on attack in 2021 I have my get ish done planner that we rock from still classics. That’s an awesome planner. That’s what 12 weeks 12 Yeah, yeah. So I’m gonna go through that it has like an end of year review, and just do all of that. And just kind of look at quarter one, like, Okay, what would I like to happen? if, you know, I had all the resources obviously audited, you know, like, and they kind of make, like, what if I don’t like what if COVID is still running rampant? What if, you know, I’m not making as much as much have like to kind of have a plan a and a plan B? And then just figure out how can I attack that in the most micro is my newest way, every day. Because I found when I get too big, it overwhelmed me overwhelms me and I just stopped completely. But if I can just like okay, we do what needs to be done today, and I try to still focus on those pillars. Like, this year, I was supposed to come out with my first course. But I created it did all the work. Tony is nodding her head because she knows because we talked about it and I just didn’t. So I’m like, okay, 2021 I feel comfortable releasing that. So how can I start working on that today? I typically used to do like, three goals for each quarter. But now it’s like no, let me pick one main pillar. Figure out how I can can knock that out and maybe the course of the 12 weeks that planner is awesome guys, because it’s literally like a 12 week situation. And then I’m just trying to take it day by day, you know, and that’s not the answer I want to even give because that sounds like you like kind of boring cuz, you know, we just want to take over the world. I have global domination, but it’s like girl dominate that day and talk about stuff. Yes, absolutely. Because it’s funny because I was talking to Oh, who is it? I can see her name. Dr. Larson, Larson. This her name, Jessica Larson. We had a Facebook Live. And I told her I was like, Look, this is my planner, I have my still playing out. I was like, look at my planner. It says top three things to do. I’m not trying to save the world. I’m doing these three things. Yes. I love that planner, because it’s broken up three most important things to do of the day. And that doesn’t say secondary. Yes. All of this stuff is bonus. Like if you can get it done. That’s cool. Antonia I’ve been not writing a ton of stuff. And my secondary tasks like I’ve been making myself kind of limit that to three, two. Because even that was sometimes feel like it was teasing me like I you still failed. But it’s like no, if I could do these top three. I’m doing more than enough. Yeah, absolutely. And you and you know what’s so funny is I was using the still I’m playing the six or the 12 week planner. But I’m trying out the year long planner this year, which is kind of like the 12 week planner, but it has a little bit more stuff in there. So I’m let you Yeah, that works out. Yeah, I was looking at it like do I want to commit? We’ll see. I know, I know. But it kept like, it was so like, tempting. I was like oh, and then I was like let me just try it. If anything. Yeah.

Real Happy Mom 21:38
Hey, give whatever works. Yes, yes, definitely. Now I love all of the things that you’ve been sharing, especially with the pillars because that is something that I didn’t necessarily think about as much because I know a lot of times we’re trying to do all of the things, especially as moms trying to, you know, manage the kids, the household, the relationships, work and all the other things, but just focusing on what’s really important, I think, is what’s most helpful. But I guess my question for you is like, how do you determine what is most important? Because it seems like everything is trying to be your priority?

Jessica Lauren 22:14
Yeah, um, one thing I’ve always told myself is like, Jessica, you, you’re in this for the long haul, like, you don’t have a quit date inside. You’ve already invested five year you don’t I mean, like, it does not have to all be done in the calendar year. So for me, I’ve kind of divided it up into three different things, right? Like, what do I want my impact to look like? What can bring in some more money, and what we’re actually like, just be fun and pleasurable for myself. So let’s say for impact, right? The podcast has a big impact. That’s where people really seem to vibe with me. And I, as much as I love doing the blog, that’s, that’s fun for me, but it doesn’t have the same connection. So I used to put all my eggs in the basket of the blog, you know, like, I need to write seven posts a day in, you know, do my episode now. It’s like, well, shouldn’t a podcast be more of the focus, if that’s the thing that’s helping more people out? So as much as I love to, you know, just do my lifestyle thing is like, Yeah, but your goal is to impact and change people’s lives. So why don’t we focus more on the podcast? Right? Right. So that’s how I kind of determine it based on like, how do I want to help someone else? And as far as money is concerned, it’s like, um, you know, sure, I want to post on Instagram all day, but my biggest return on investment has been Pinterest, right, like as far as getting more traffic or more leads or goals. So maybe I should focus on taking a Pinterest class this year. Or if you get what I’m saying, like, I try to just focus on impact the money and something a little bit pleasurable. So for me, learning Spanish on Duolingo has been so much fun. So that’s the pillar and I just kind of leave it there. For the best You bet. I mean, and and that’s been kind of helping so even I’ve been kind of thinking like, Oh, I want to start a YouTube channel and maybe show up more on video because I think I don’t think I just rewind on video. So maybe that might be a focus. So I just tried to stick to like I said, these three pillars, the things that’s going to hold the whole house up, and all that other stuff like, well, then maybe I should have, you know, a Facebook group. It’s like, does that fall in line as far as importance? Not not really right now for how I want to have impact but me showing up consistently on the podcast, that’s more important,

Real Happy Mom 24:41
you know? Yeah, no, totally get it. totally get it. And I love how you break it up into the three about impact. Money and pleasure fun, because that’s something to especially as moms like I think sometimes we feel guilty for having fun, and I remember getting something one time saying like, oh, oh, I had to leave to go to an event and my son was like, oh, Money Where you going? I was like, Oh, I’m going to this event with some doctor friends. And he was like, but you’re leaving me?

Jessica Lauren 25:07
You’re not gonna take me and I was like, Yeah, I hate him. Like, why are you making me feel bad? Because you can’t go. And I started to feel bad, but someone had posted it. I think I posted on Instagram. And one of my dearest friends was like, Girl, you can have fun. It’s okay. And you need to show your son that you can have fun too. Yes, we take him take it looks on this is a fun looks like oh, kids be laying at all. Hey, don’t they? Yes, yes. Feeling all kind of bad. But I feel better once my friend put me back in line and let me know when to you have to schedule in the fun because things just for me, I don’t, I’m fine, what routines and rituals but the monotony can kind of toy with my head just a little bit. And if I have something to look forward to everyday, this is like, oh, practice, manage for 30 minutes on Duolingo. Or, you know, next Friday, go to Michael’s and get a new canvas and just try to paint or schedule and you’ll be I say dance parties. It just gives me something to look forward to. You know, like, I just came to a point where it’s like, I’m working hard, right? But what is this for? Like, I want to work so hard in my business so that I created enough space for the font for the vacations for you know, spending more time with my family. Those shouldn’t be the sacrifices, you know, for me all 24 seven, like, Come on now. You know?

Real Happy Mom 26:28
Yeah, no, definitely. I’m with you. Because I was talking to another friend of mine. She’s a lawyer. And she was just talking about how a lot of times they get a lot of professionals get caught up in trying to have the lifestyle, that they end up working so much just to maintain the lifestyle that they don’t even get to enjoy all the things. So I’m glad that you pointed that out, like having something you know, to look forward to. That’s fun. And then also reminding yourself like, why am I working so hard? But do I really need to work this

Jessica Lauren 26:56
hard? Exactly, exactly. I mean, for me, you know, my whole thing is like, I feel like I’m a professional cheerleader, and encourager, like I love doing that. But it’s like, I can’t encourage nobody if I’m not encouraged myself, and how I literally had to write a list, like, what feeds me what fuels me, and it’s silly stuff. Like, I just want to go to Target and walk down every single aisle. So now I scheduled that in for me is cooking. So it’s like let me get Ayesha Curry’s new cookbook and try some new recipes. And I had to be just as intentional as the fun and self care and just just good time as I do in my business. And I hadn’t done that since I started. Like it was like Jessica, who who cares about her, she goes in the backseat. But it’s like, when you’re in service, even if it’s not like I’m a podcast host as a mom, you’re in service to people 24 seven, you can’t be good to anybody. If you are depleted. You know, we always go back to that airplane thing when the mask drops, they say put it on you first and then somebody else and it’s cliche, a cliche for a reason. It’s because it’s true, you know? Absolutely. No, I’m totally with you. Now. I’m just wondering, like I said, we’re a few days away from 2021. And even if you’re listening to this and it is in 2021 What is one thing that you would want for us moms to do better about in this year moving forward? Especially know what we know about 2020 Oh, goodness, just to be easy on yourself, my best friend to keep I’m surrounded by Moms. I’m actually step mom now. And my boyfriend has kids and his 12 year old lives with us a lot and I’m just learning like, oh, Chad, this is this is fun. But all of my girlfriends during pandemic was just like, I’m not elearning good enough. I’m not mom and good enough. I’m not cooking these nutrients meals enough and it’s just like girl, give yourself some grace. Even if there’s not a pandemic give us You can’t do it all like I woke up this morning was like dang his dishes in the sink. I hate that but it was just like his sleep uh, dishes at this point sleep comes first. So I would just say give yourself as much grace as possible and I’m always like, what does that look like? Literally, you know, we throw that around so much for me. I’ve had to sit down and write myself a love letter like dear Jessica, you are doing fine you are you know still capable you’re still a good person even though you fell asleep in his dishes or laundry a you you know is I have to go that far or my friends laugh at me because they actually saw this in my phone. I’m going through my phone right now my friend like what’s that video like you cry? It was like it’s a video of me crying. I will literally set my phone up and just talk to myself like girl it’s okay I know it’s hard but you got this little rat and so I you know we throw around that were give yourself give yourself Grace, Grace, Grace, Grace, but it’s like for me I’ve literally had to be intentional Like, let me write myself a letter, let me vent on my camera, let me call my friend and ask her for a pep talk. And so I just want you to do the same thing. Give yourself a little bit more just grace to understanding because like, for me, it’s like, I want to talk to nobody the way I talk to myself like that. I wouldn’t be anybody else up like this. And your kids don’t even know like, they’re like, Mom, you’re awesome. 24 seven, I don’t care that you know, today, we didn’t necessarily get to do the craft. Like, I don’t care. Like, as long as you’re here and present. That’s enough for me. So yes, absolutely. And you reminded me of this meme. It was, um, it was something about like, the mom was like spilling like she was the worst mom in the world. And then the little kid, it was like a little baby hugging her saying, like, you’re the best mommy in the world. Like that. It’s like, you think that you’re not doing a good enough job, but you really are. And I love how you said giving yourself grace. Because, honestly, Jessica, I feel like it’s cliche, but a lot of people don’t understand what it means to give yourself grace. And so just really quick to paint a picture of it. So you lashing out on your kids. Yeah. Jerk. Not nice. Of course. They didn’t deserve that lashing. Yeah, they still turn around and give you a hug and tell you I love you. That’s grace. That’s the same thing for yourself. Exactly. That is it. that’s it in a nutshell. Yes. Yes. Now, Jessica, you have been amazing and given us the pep talk we needed to where can we find you? We want to connect with you online and learn more about you.

Jessica Lauren 31:29
Yeah, so you can check out the podcast is the Sunday jumpstart podcast comes out every Sunday and Wednesday and now I could say every because I got my mojo back. It was every other child was a mess. But the Sunday jumpstart.com Also, if you want to read the blog is no real jewelry calm. I’m on Instagram under at the Sunday jumpstart, or at no real jewelry. Those are my two babies. And yeah, I as far as Instagram go, I used to love Instagram so much. But I got really discouraged by it. Because the algorithm i was growing super rapidly, then I just flatlined. And so it kind of scared me. So now I’m challenging myself to just get back on every day. So hopefully now hopefully, I’ll be back to sharing just like David day behind the scenes and whatever inspiration I have or doing some lives and stuff like that. So check me out there. Yes, yes. Now, if anyone is interested in coaching, is that still available? Just want to see, you know what I am on the fence about that being 100% honest. I want to be able to do coaching 100%. Well, and I’m not quite there yet. So I actually wrote in myself, planner, disable that page until it feels right again. So I’m thinking about the spring restarting it. But for now it’s kind of on a hiatus. But once we do is called the go getters sessions. I will make an announcement when it’s back up and running. Yeah, absolutely. If you are even thinking about it, it is definitely going to be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself. I can say that being someone that’s actually gone through the sessions and actually did an extended session with you. So yeah, you did. Yeah. Thank you. Yes, I’ll make sure to include all those links in the show notes. Jessica, thank you so much for coming on. Right now. That

Real Happy Mom 33:13
does it for this episode of the Real Happy Mom podcast. I hope you’ve enjoyed this episode as much as I have. I absolutely love talking to Jessica. And I just have so much fun when I’m around her and I hope that you had just as much fun and got some encouragement from her because that’s one thing that Jessica is really amazing at is getting everyone around her encouraged and getting the motivation to get things done. So mama bear, I want to let you know that you’re doing an awesome job. Make sure you head over to Happy Mom comm slash 113 to get the links in the show notes that were mentioned in this episode. And also do me a favor and rate and review this podcast if you’ve enjoyed this episode, because that shows me that you love me and you love what we are putting out here and thank you so much for listening. This is something I absolutely love to do, but I couldn’t do it if you weren’t listening. So I just want to say thank you. Now, make sure you have a great rest of your day. Make sure to also tune back in next week for another full episode. Take care and we’ll talk to love